Hello wise Knotties,
I've already chosen my Matron of Honor (best friend), Maid of Honor (sister), and four close friends to be in the wedding. My fiance has one sister who lives out of state. We haven't spent much time together yet, but we are slowly starting to build a relationship. She and her husband got married this fall at city hall and told my fiance and I the following week that they'd gotten married. They "didn't want to make a big deal of it," which we respect.
When she and her new husband visited a few weeks ago with their new baby, she casually asked me about our wedding plans which I hadn't brought up to her yet. I told her that we'd picked the venue and then threw out a few questions to see what her interest level was in being involved, to which she replied, "It's your wedding" then changed the subject. Guess that was my answer...?
I've been thinking about asking her to be a bridesmaid so that she doesn't feel left out, but I get the sense that the whole thing would be a burden to this new working wife and mom who doesn't really know me and isn't that into weddings. Is it better to ask her and let her say no? Or just not ask at all and maybe give our niece some kind of flower girl-type honor? Any suggestions would be so helpful!