I have a feeling that this is going to get long. The main point is....do you have any experience/tips for politely declining a shower?The long story:I don't really want to have a shower thrown for me, for various reasons. I don't like being the center of attention, I don't like the thought of people "showering" me with gifts, I don't have a lot of close girl friends in the area, my bridal party is all out of town, as is my mom, etc....As I said, I have very few girl friends in the area. I've made a few on my own but most of the people I socialize with are the wives of FI's friends, some of whom I like and some of whom I really don't like.So, one of "my" friends offered to throw me a shower or just have a nice night out for the two of us to celebrate. I thanked her profusely for the offer of the shower, but told her that I'd rather spend time just the two of us. Ok, good.So, just today, one of the women in the group of "wives" called and left me a message about how she and the other "wives" were talking about how they've "heard nothing about a couples shower" so they'd like to throw us one. I'd really rather they don't, but I'm trying to figure out how to politely decline this offer.She did mention a potential date, two weeks from now, when FI will be out of town. He's essentially out of town every weekend (and some weekdays) from now until the wedding. I highly doubt that we would be able to find a date that would work. I guess I can fall back on that.When asked, I've dropped hints here and there over the past several months about how I don't think that I'm going to have a shower, how I'm not "into" showers, etc. People always respond "But you HAVE to have a shower." Um, notsomuch. I don't mean to sound ungrateful. I just need some help navigating this situation.
