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WWYD - thanksgiving edition

Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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Mom doesn't want to have Thanksgiving this year. She's just not in the mood. I had planned on going to her house and I am already salivating.

H's family has a very different sort of meal for their Thanksgiving, which is cool and all, but I do miss some of the comforting foods I grew up with.

A few years ago I offered to make dressing/stuffing for their Thanksgiving but H said nobody would eat it. It's *my* favorite part of the meal.

So WWYD:

1) have Thanksgiving just the two of us, knowing H would miss his family and be a little sad that we were IN TOWN and not spending it with them, but have all the foods we both want

2) Go to H's family, don't make any of the foods I like since nobody else would eat them

3) Go, but make a few things, which will probably not be eaten

I'm leaning toward 3, because, hell, it's *my* thanksgiving too, and I'm eating foods I've never eaten before - why can't other people broaden their horizons?

Yes, this is dumb. But my panties are in a wad and I'm feeling sorry for myself.
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Re: WWYD - thanksgiving edition

  • Mrs.ThistletwatMrs.Thistletwat
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    edited December 2011
    Go to H's and then make your own thanksgiving on another day. H and I are going to do our own T-day at home with some friends in Dec.
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  • nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    3.
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  • arbolitaarbolita
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    edited December 2011
    I would do option 3 - because even if they don't eat the foods you make, you can take them back home with you and eat them later.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    I would do #2, with a twist:  I would make the things I like, but eat them at home with my DH another time.  It would be nice if you could get his family to eat them, but since they have shown that they won't, better not to waste the effort and instead enjoy them yourself.  More for you!

    The catch is that you probably won't eat them the day of, but if you can live with that, that would be my vote.

    I totally get your butthurtedness, but at the same time, I know from experience that wanting other people to be different than they are, even (especially) when you are right and they are wrong, only leads to frustration. 
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  • MinMMinM
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    edited December 2011
    3. When we are with H's family, I hang with the kids, and teach 'em stuff my family does - like putting olives on your fingertips. I bring my traditions to them.
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    Heffa that's very true. The thing is - they've never tried it, how do they know they don't like it? When I make chicken tetrazzini it was gobbled up whole despite people initially going, "What IS it?!"

    But yeah, I'm butthurt. That is an excellent way to put it.

    Hah! At least I can admit it to myself...
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    #3. Or can you host his family? Is that too much?

    I also used to do double Thanksgivings when H worked nightshift - he'd have the eve off, so we'd have one T-day at our house on Wednesday, and then I went to my mom's on Thursday. I got to try new recipes and make a turkey that didn't taste like it had spent the better part of the last year in a dehydrator, and my mom still got to have her traditional day with overcooked greenbeans and apple pie without cheese. 
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    How can he speak for others?  #3 for sure.
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    Bmom I was literally just thinking about hosting Thanksgiving. I have emailed SIL to see what her plans are - if they just want to do something the 4 of them then I could definitely host everybody else, but 12-15 people would be too much for my tiny apt.
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  • =Turkey==Turkey= member
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    edited December 2011

    I love Puerto Rican Thanksgivings, I feel safe there.

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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011

    Do #3.  They may surprise you and the husband and like it.  I do that with DH's family.  I took a broccoli tortellini salad to a summer event and got oodles of "What's the pasta?  DId you make it yourself?  Do you have to buy it at a specialty store?" They ate all of it and asked for the recipe.

    I hate missing my mom's dressing to eat the packaged crap MIL puts out. 

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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    #3. And take the leftovers home for you and H.

    I hate missing Thanksgiving in PA with my parents to go to the IL's. This year, I told H that I wanted to go out no matter what. He suggested it to his parents, and we're all going out, which is fabulous.

    MIL is not the greatest cook, and I bust my hump making a ton of additional dishes. I wasn't doing it this year. Not to mention, being in their house makes my allergies go nuts. Not worth it for cold, crummy food and elderly people.
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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    #3.  My sister's in-laws have weird TG food.  She always takes her favorites and just tries not to be hurt when people would rather eat oreo cookies for dessert than the pie she slaved over.
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    I just a friendly gal looking for options.

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