aka I'm almost to my breaking point with FMIL. We didn't have the talk I was asking about though so it's a little off that topic.We had a recent interaction with FMIL and while it could have been worse it wasn't that great. She didn't acknowledge me nor look at me until the very end (and even then it wasn't anything spectacular: "Lemonade?") (I was expecting the cold shoulder- she's been that way to all her kids SO's lately); kept interrupting conversations we were having with other family members (nothing new there either); all the conversations were all about her (again, nothing new). One of the tasks that we visited for was to pick out the grooms tux to rent. She didn't want to go because "Well you don't want me in your life. My opinion doesn't matter either." FI was very disappointed; he won't admit that he was but everyone saw it on his face. And I'm pissed for him. The next interaction...was a joke. Quiet an act actually. We had an audience to play nice for (she brought along a friend) and we were one big happy family *puke*. Suddenly she was excited about the wedding (we've been engaged a year and this is the first time she hasn't been in the dump about it): wedding this-wedding that; she suddenly had something to do with her granddaughter: she'd been ignoring her for the good part of the last year, wouldn't have anything to do with her because FMIL was mad at neices dad; she suddenly said more than one word to me and FBIL's GF. I just don't see how a time lapse of less than 12 hours changes the way she's been to all of us the last year so that's why I feel it was fake and not sincere. I know it's not me...it's her. It just hurts so much that I'm marrying her son and she knows NOTHING about me, nothing! In all the years I've known her, she has never once asked me a question about myself. I could just start talking about myself but she interrupts or her eyes glaze over whenever it's not about her, or she'll just walk out of the room. I get it; it's on her but it's sad that she is this way. On top of this visit, it is just blaring in my face that she treats her kids like crap. Harsh I know but it's always what they can do for her, always talking trash to everyone about them, she's making them choose between her and their dad and proving that they love her more and a bunch of other BS like "If you don't do what I want then you don't love me" and then she cries. She always gets their hopes up only to smash them to bits and pieces. I don't want her in our home at this point (staying the night); sure she's being mean to me in a nice way but she's still mean to me and I'm not going to be treated like sh!t under my own roof. After the first visit I was pretty much done with her but after the second visit, I think I pulled the wool over my eyes and I feel bad for not wanting anything to do with her.Any advice or feedback would be appreciated
