Confessions

dreamalotmp · September 2009

OK, we're boring. :P Anyone for some confession sharing? - I bought pants that are 3 sizes up from what I was wearing a year ago and the button was still hard to get buttoned.

I'm super sad about my weight gain and don't know why it won't stop. I'm afraid that is why my back hurts. - I get super competitive when someone asks for recommendations and want them to pick mine over others'. I'm such a dork. :P - I'm still not sure if I can handle having a baby. And we're starting to try next month! I also have a gut feeling that we won't be able to get pregnant.

e8jackson6 · September 2009

Well - being in a cast for 8(+?) weeks will do that unfortunately.

You'll get back where you want to be.And you can definitely handle having a baby - you'll be an excellent mom!! And don't create problems that aren't necessarily there. Try, see what happens - you never know, it could happen the first time. :)My confessions:- I hate football and the Steelers and already want to jump off a bridge every time someone starts talking about them (gonna be a long football season)- My company is laying people off for sure - starting in a few weeks - and others will receive a 10% (at least) pay cut. A small part of me wishes I would just get laid off, then I could just collect the unemployment and use that time to look for a new job - with the ability to interview at any time and start a new one right away. A very small part - I know it's not the better option - but I so hate it here.- I know I need to go work out tonight, but what I really want to do is curl up on the couch with Rella.

kbielak17 · September 2009

Confession: I don't really have anyhting to complain about right now, which is quite unusual for me (haha). I'm a day and half away from leaving a job I hate, I have 1 interview lined up for when I get to CC, possibly have a 2nd interview, finally getting this move over with this weekend, GET TO SEE FI! Um, I will confess that I am a little hurt by the fact that I have worked here for 2 years and I'm not even getting so much as a goodbye lunch. My boss has never been generous with that kind of stuff but it really makes me feel like my contributions here have been for nothing.

kwynn · September 2009

I don't have anything super deep to share today, but I guess this one kind of irks me (did I spell "irks" right?):My DH has a well-paying job that really challenges him. It's very demanding. We joke that it is his second wife. He loves what he does. I, meanwhile, have picked up a part-time promotional job, which I swore I wouldn't go back to doing (I've done those promo type things for year). What do I do right now? Pass out lunch meat samples in a grocery store. I do it because it actually pays somewhat decently, it will be done in November, I can put it on a resume, and I can decline shifts if I choose to. But it isn't glamorous, exciting, interesting, rewarding, and let's be frank, it is a far cry from a professional position. I don't expect us both to have perfect jobs. But I want a little less disparity in the professional level between our jobs. I am jealous that he is doing what he loves and I'm wearing a hairnet and gloves, offering samples of lunch meat or vodka or whatever I am hawking that particular week.

e8jackson6 · September 2009

kwynn - I understand what you're saying about your jobs. Though it's not a difference in professionalism - he LOVES his job. Really really enjoys going to work every day. Meanwhile - every day it's harder for me to force myself to get out of bed to come in. I'm definitely extremely happy for him, I just wish I could find that for myself as well. It would be so much nicer to come home from work in a good mood almost every day - we would enjoy our time together so much more.

daveys_baby · September 2009

I can't think of any good ones right now either. Maybe that I wish a Sonic would open close to my house because it has become my new favorite place...because I'm pathetic like that.Kwynn, samples of vodka?! I'm moving to Florida so I can grocery shop and drink cocktails simultaneously!

dreamalotmp · September 2009

Aww, thanks for trying to make me feel better, Erica.

kwynn · September 2009

*yearsOops!Molly, I agree that the weight gain might be from having das boot. I'm sure it will come right off. And how exciting to be trying for a baby next month!

I think almost everyone worries that they won't be able to get pregnant, but most people eventually do. (If you found out you couldn't get pregnant, wouldn't you think of all those years of safe sex and birth control being a waste? I always wonder that)Erica, you are being blasphemous with your Steeler talk!

Haha, no, I don't like hockey, so I feel that way about the Pens. But Steeler love is a big thing for my DH and I, so that's why I'm way more into it than I was years ago.And Karen, it majorly sucks that there is no goodbye lunch. People are really weird like that. I worked somewhere for 3 years and it was the same thing. (LOL, I didn't like them anyway! Three years and people still didn't know my name!) But my next job I had and left to get married, they threw me a whole party, so that made up for the crappy job's lack of effort.

McBridetobe · September 2009

I have planned to go to the gym 3 times this week and have not made it once. Not good. I am so happy that we don't have any plans this weekend. :)Oh, but I do have to get MORE freaking bloodwork done this weekend and the lab near me is seriously incompetent. I might not make it out if the same people are there. My boss has not shown up yet today and I've hardly done any work.

kbielak17 · September 2009

Kwynn, I hear you....I'm pretty sure there are people here that don't know my name either. That always perplexed me. How do you not know the names of people you see every day?! Oh well.

McBridetobe · September 2009

Kristen, my DH and I are the same way. I am quite bitter about it because I left a job that I loved in Pittsburgh to move here and have not found the same thing since then (great coworkers/office, interesting and fun work, etc.) And my DH loves his job. Loves it times infinity. And he works with such amazing, fun people. I am jealousE all the time. We've discussed it at length and what I keep telling myself is that it is his time right now. It will be my time to find a job that I love again in the future and maybe he won't enjoy his as much some years (or the added responsibilities that would come with advancing, etc.) So in the meantime, I plug away here, putting some time in, enjoy a short commute and a paycheck and wait. Molly, I hope it happens quickly for you guys.

daveys_baby · September 2009

Good luck Molly!I am also not excited about pro football season, mostly because it means there will be football on all day long this Sunday and every Sunday after it for the next 20 weeks. But Go Steelers! I just don't really care about any of the other 20+ teams...but I guess I'll be getting to know themI thought of another, once again, because I'm pathetic. For the last 6 years I've been looking forward to watching the basketball hall of fame inductions tomorrow and I will more than likely cry my eyes out and watch it a dozen times in the next month. Yeah, I'm just that pathetic.

kbielak17 · September 2009

It makes me sad that so many of us seem to be in the same position, where our FI/DH has a job he loves and we have one we don't. Why does it have to be SO HARD for 2 people to both find jobs they love in the same location?

McBridetobe · September 2009

Oh I am already sick of hearing about the Ravens. Sigh.

cobrien1976 · September 2009

I'll play... FI is driving me crazy with wedding planning. He is an engineer, so he deals with multi-million/billion dollar contracts everyday. Our simple little catering contract isn't worded "correctly" so now he is talking to our caterer bascially telling them that what they are doing is stupid and that we need another contract...Not the first time either...our vendors are going to hate us...grrrFI's sister is pregnant and just found out yesterday that she is having a girl. Scott asked me to send her an email telling her congrats and I really don't want to. I just really don't care...I know that is horrible to say, I just can't do it. I really wish the next 44 days go by quickly, I really want the wedding to be over with and to be laying on the beach without having to fight, argue, disagree, deal with family and work for 14 days...Sorry nothing juicy but needed to get that out...thx.

KimWard · September 2009

I confess that: - I need to get a better hold on my temper. I don't always lash out, but I have been noticing my temper flaring more and more lately.- DH and I have been going to our church since Jan., but have not become members yet...we just keep delaying it. Honestly, I do not want to be baptized (one of the requirements- I was when I was a baby in the Catholic church, but we're talking adult baptism)- I am a little anxious about tom. since it is 9/11 and I work downtown/ride the metro. I know it is silly, but I felt the same way last year too.

brivb10 · September 2009

confessions: after going to pre cana - I am rethinking the whole hormonal contraception thing. I don't want to be a cafeteria Catholic, but with an auto immune disease that requires fetus harming drugs to function, my doctor thinks not using the nuva ring is a very bad idea. I definitely don't want to harm a baby, and I hear NFP is reliable, but why can't a find a doctor that knows both, knows about RA, and can help me make a decision!!! DF hates his job - but is staying there b/c economy sucks, and the money is wonderful. But he works at least 80 hours a week, and when you divide his salary, he could potentially make as much working 2-40 hour jobs at a higher paying macdo. I want him to look, but don't want him to resent me ousting him from a job. I hate law school. Third year is pointless, and I am just punching in teh clock by going to class. I am wasting big $$ by not "learning". and I can't find the interest to love school again - 20 years of education is enough. Phew, I feel better.

kwynn · September 2009

Cheryl, I'd tell your FI he can email his sister. Is this the crazy SIL who has been pregnant for awhile now? (Is she a bridesmaid?) Or is a different sister pregnant? I remember you have one huge PIA SIL, right? An AW?Karen, I think the way it is with jobs is because traditionally, just the husband worked. Now we wives are working too, but in many cases, women's wages still don't match men's. We're what's called a "trailing spouse." I agree that it needs to be a trade off, like KR said. Okay, it's his turn now, but it will be my turn in a few years. Except that, in our case, it probably never will be. He makes over ten times what I made last year and will probably always make at least 3x what I could make, even if I landed a great job. So emotionally, I think it would be fair for both of us to pursue our careers at alternating times. But financially and logically, it makes sense to pursue the career that is obviously much more lucrative.But the situation probably becomes so much more complex if you both are about equal in terms of money. It's like "Whose dream is more important? Whose happiness is more important?" How can you ever begin to answer that question!KR, I'm glad you used the word "resent." I hate to throw that out there because it seems like such a jealous or hate-filled word, but I actually do feel that way a lot. I resent my DH for moving us here and am just jealous (like Erica said) of what he has, although he works so hard for it.

kbielak17 · September 2009

Uh, can I have another turn? Confession: I like confession time. I don't necessarily even need anyone to respond or really even read it, it's just nice to b!tch about stuff sometimes. I'm pretty sure FI & my mom are sick of hearing it from me.

marburs · September 2009

count me in... With everyone on here getting pregnant- I have been super scared that I'll be the next one. I want to have kids- but not for a few years. I'm on the pill- and we started using c-doms as well. And still I get nervous... (dont worry- not nearly worried enough to stop altogether! lol) oh- and at the same time, I'm jealous everyone is hainv gboys- I want a boy first . But you guys are all using up the boy quota see- constant baby thinking- 3 of my IRL friends are pregnant- not even including you guys.

AMK2009 · September 2009

Molly: Good Luck! I think you will be an excellent mom!! Erica: I'm ready to jump off the bridge with you. I can't handle DH watching ever stupid Steeler game, I hate Sundays during football season because we can never do anything because the stupid game is on, and I hate traffic getting out of here when there's a home game. Oh, not mention all the stupid "Here we go Steelers" status updates on Facebook. BLAH. My confession: I just billed our client 9.9 hours for a project that took maybe about 3? The irritabily factor came into play. Also, I feel like women's rights activists ruined my life. I'd much rather be home cooking, cleaning, and taking care of babies instead of having a stupid job. If women didn't work, men would be making more $$ and there wouldn't be so many laid off, also families wouldn't have as much money with only one income, so the cost of living would not be as high. The fact that I will not be able to be a SAHM really makes me resent those women who started it all by saying we should have a right to vote. I don't really care who's president anyway, they're all a$$holes.

LaFemmeRousse · September 2009

Molly, I'm sure that it's because of being stuck in the boot. It's so frustrating to try and find workouts, especially cardio, that I can do without aggravating the stupid foot. I feel you, girl! I also have always worried about being unable to conceive. I don't even want kids for years and years, but it's still a thing in the back of my mind!I'm sorry that so many of you are unhappy with your jobs

FI and I are really lucky with what we do and where we work, and this really makes me appreciate it even more.My confession: I am totally slacking on my grad school applications. The first round is due in October and I'm not nearly far enough along on my essays. Honestly... wedding planning is a much more fun way to spend my time! Terrible

cobrien1976 · September 2009

Cheryl, I'd tell your FI he can email his sister. Is this the crazy SIL who has been pregnant for awhile now? (Is she a bridesmaid?) Or is a different sister pregnant? I remember you have one huge PIA SIL, right? An AW?Kwynn, she is 5 months pregnant and she's is the PITA that I've been mentioning since I started Knotting in October...and she is a BM only because FMIL basically told me that she HAD to be one!!!And a big AW!!

marburs · September 2009

I thought of more: I love Jen LaFemme's bucket pics everyday- crack me up! I love my job. And [gasp] I'm a feminist.

KimWard · September 2009

The fact that I will not be able to be a SAHM really makes me resent those women who started it all by saying we should have a right to vote. I don't really care who's president anyway, they're all a$$holes.Wow, um, I disagree- I like to have a say in who runs my city, country, etc. I guess I'm one of those feminists that messed up your plan! :-P

dreamalotmp · September 2009

Thanks for the encouragement about being a Mom, ladies. I do appreciate it. I like that Confessions is helpful to people. We do need to vent sometimes. :)I have another (boring) one... I haven't been to the dentist since May of 2008 because I HATE the dentist. My gums have been bleeding every time I brush, but I am still too scared to make an appointment.

kwynn · September 2009

Oooh, Angela, I have a book review for you. Have you read "The Two-Income Trap"? It is an entire book about what you just posted, how in some ways, women working have actually damaged a family's financial stability. The woman's job used to just supplement or provide some money for little extras, maybe a nice vacation or Christmas gifts. Now, prices have risen so dramatically that women must work to be able to afford a suburban home in a decent neighborhood, a second car, and college education. It's a good book if you are passionate about the issue (review in blog).

morganphd · September 2009

confession: -I'm jealous of everyone in my life who is pregnant right now. The three of you on here, as well as several friends/family members IRL. I'm very happy for everyone, just jealous. I jumped up and down with happiness when I realized that one of the showers I have to go to is the same time as the last Phils game of the year (we have tickets). Called to RSVP with a cheerful "No" today-I hate the fact that we are having issues. It looks likes it's going to take a while for us to have kids because of timing things and I'm not happy with it at all. I've been really depressed lately because of it all. I know it's taking a lot out of DH too.-On Kristin's note - it makes me absolutely RESENT all the time that I was on BCPs. And the fact that it took us so long to get married - maybe we could of already gotten through all of this stuff.-I'm already counting down to the end of the semester and it just started last week

e8jackson6 · September 2009

Molly - I have you beat on the dentist thing - it's been so long I actually can't even remember!! Maybe early college or even HS! I HATE the dentist - I've never even had a cavity or any real issues - I just hate going.

McBridetobe · September 2009

Well, I think women voting is a good thing. :)Kristen, I wasn't necessarily talking about salary as much as just finding something you love to do for a FT job. I think that is my issue the most...I don't love what I do and my DH does. So even if he made less than I do (ha!) I really think he would still be happier. I'd love to make more money...but at the end of the day, I don't think it would make me LIKE my job any more.

AMK2009 · September 2009

Ohh Kristen, I'll have to check out that book!

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