My FI and I are getting married on 11-11-11. Granted, that is still a while off, but I feel we should start planning now. At least decide on who we'd like to invite and set a budget, also start looking for venues. My FI doesn't want to plan anything yet, because "we've still got lots of time, we'll figure something out." I feel like I'm alone in planning everything. I've never planned a wedding before, and I don't have anyone to help me. So I joined this website, and started posting in these message boards hoping to at least find online support, but all I have found is hostility in the other threads. The only board that seems supportive is this one consisting of other November 2011 brides. So I guess I will just stick to posting in here. I'm feeling very discouraged about this whole wedding thing. My FI and I have already been engaged 2 1/2 years, and he still doesn't want to talk about the wedding. I'm surprised we set the date for next year. I'm just wondering how long I should tolerate his unwillingness to discuss wedding plans. Because November 2011 will come fast. I do not want to have to rush-plan everything at the last minute, or wind up having to get married at the courthouse. By the time we get married, our engagement will have lasted almost 4 years. I believe I deserve a wedding after waiting that long. Every now and then he'll toss out an idea or two, but that's about it. He actually told me once that that's all we should be doing right now, tossing around ideas now and then. I don't think he comprehends that some things require booking about a year in advance. I know he doesn't like to plan anything because all his plans have fallen through in the past, but geez. I'm in the midst of trying to switch careers and
plan a wedding that he doesn't seem to want to help out with. I'm feeling very, very frustrated!
"And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make." --The Beatles