My cousin was my maid of honor in my first wedding. That marriage didn't last for reasons I won't go into. I am planning my second wedding and it is going to be great. I am not asking for my family to do anything for the wedding, I am paying for it and there is no wedding party just because I want everyone to just sit back and enjoy it as my gift to them. My cousin wants to do our wedding cake because she has taken a class and learned how to do real involved cakes and she is good! She told me she will do it no charge and its her gift to us. I still feel like I should pay her something though. We aren't having a large wedding, it will be elegant and small with about 35 guests max! I just want enough cake to feed that amount of people and it can be plain white in color with pastel edible seashells on it. Do you think I should still pay her something?