Poll:Reveal or No?

fallbride1109 · September 2009

So I'm going over the timeline with my photographer today. (Can I just complain one more time how I don't have enough time for everything?) And it got me thinking about the pros/cons of doing a reveal or having FI see me for the first time coming down the aisle.Tell me what you did/are doing and why.

JustinandLindsay2009 · September 2009

I am doing no reveal - I have dreamed of the doors opening and seeing the look on his face in front of the entire chapel full of people as long as I can remember. I also want an ultra-traditional wedding and tradition says it's bad luck to see the bride before she is walking down the isle....but I can see reasons for doing a reveal as far as times and pictures go. I think it ultimately depends on what matters most to you.

fallbride1109 · September 2009

Lindsay, I am with you 100%. But after looking at my timeline, I'm wondering if I can't be talked into it.

appletango85 · September 2009

I think we are going to do one before the ceremony just because we are starting so late and we can get all group pictures done before the ceremony. We are starting at 745 and I want to get in there eat, and get the party started! Maybe if we weren't doing so many freakin special dances...Plus we could get some of the two of us outside in the daylight with our venue and maybe some of downtown fort worth all dressed up.

Mariah&Steven · September 2009

I kind of wish we had done a reveal. We could have taken more photos together and with our BP and I still think walking down the aisle would be just a symbolic and emotional as if we hadn't seen each other beforehand.

amybrent · September 2009

We're definitely doing one before the ceremony. We're both going to be so nervous/anxious, and we both feel like seeing each other and having "our time" beforehand will really put us at ease. I also like the idea of the photographers capturing the private moments and the genuine expressions when you first see each other. When you first meet at the end of the aisle, you can't really be as emotional/affectionate/huggy with 200 people watching you, as you could be if it's just the two of you. Not to mention, it really cuts down on the time you would need after the ceremony taking pictures. I didn't want to keep my guests waiting too long by being bogged down with all the picture taking. I'll be excited to get to the party!

Donnaaries · September 2009

We are planning on doing a reveal for the sake of speeding up post-ceremony photos (I want to eat!), and getting some of those great private moments captured on camera before the ceremony.

stephl3055 · September 2009

I still don't know if I would've wanted to do this. I think I would've liked how the pictures turned out, but I think I would've been so much more emotional if it was just the two of us than I was during the ceremony. Like makeup running down my face and onto my dress emotional. We also wanted to be really traditional though. David didn't know what my dress looked like, we didn't see each other all that day, and we wanted to see each other for the first time at the ceremony. So I guess my answer depends on what type of ceremony you are having. If it's traditional, then don't do the reveal. If it isn't, then see each other before.

Buttercup509 · September 2009

We didn't do a reveal. I went back and forth with it during planning. We were more restricted on time before the ceremony than after, and we wanted sunset shots.

llc_lauren & chris · September 2009

We're going to do one. I think that time with just the two of us before the ceremony will help me enjoy that walk down the aisle. I'm really big on pictures and I think that having all that time beforehand will allow our photographer to get some awesome pictures with just us, and also with the bridal party and our families and in the sun light. Like Donna said, it'll also cut down on the pictures after the ceremony and let us get to the party quicker.

shortgirltx · September 2009

We won't be doing the reveal. The only reason we would consider doing the reveal would be to save time but that's not a big enough reason for us to do it. If they have to wait 15 minutes to eat, what else can you do? So I hear you on there's not enough time!!We will however be doing whatever pictures possible beforehand (me with my individual people and groom with his individual people) so we don't waste that time after wards.

tnickel06 · September 2009

We plan on not doing a reveal. I always leaned more towards no reveal but I could also find reasons to do one. But my FI is adement(sp?) about not seeing me before walking down the aisle or even knowing what my dress looks like. So it's just way easier to just wait. But I say do whatever you want to do, there are good reasons for both so just pick out what works for you two.

Mariah&Steven · September 2009

Ummm...PSst. Stephie, I've heard that if you don't do a reveal Lynn charges you $500. Hello?! Haven't you read your contract??;) j/k

fallbride1109 · September 2009

Actually Lynn just gave me the best idea I've ever heard: do the reveal, but do it in our ceremony space, and walk down the aisle toward him.Best.compromise.ever. Now if I can just talk FI into it.The ONLY reason I want to do this is for time. We just don't have enough of it.

shananagins · September 2009

I wish we had done a reveal. I kind of wanted to before, but D really didn't, he's more traditional. Now I really wish I had talked him into it. I felt really rushed during pictures after the ceremony, I wanted to push through them so we could get to the reception. I feel like we didn't get as many pictures as I would have liked with our B party and just the two of us. We didn't go anywhere other than the ceremony location and I would have liked to get some other location shots. I think that seeing eachother before hand wouldn't make walking down the aisle any less magical.

Buttercup509 · September 2009

Stephie - You better make sure she won't charge you extra for that.

JustinandLindsay2009 · September 2009

I heard it's $500

Mariah&Steven · September 2009

ooohh, so that's $500 for the reveal and $500 extra for walking down the aisle for the reveal. That's pretty steep. Andplusalso, there's the $500 fee for your guests taking pictures. Dude, Stephie, you could be out $1500.

Buttercup509 · September 2009

Don't worry though, she will let you pay after the wedding.

fallbride1109 · September 2009

I heard she actually confiscates everyone's camera at the door. Either that or she stands behind you and makes funny faces and rabbit ears while your friends take your picture.

Mariah&Steven · September 2009

Or, if you don't pay her, she'll photoshop a knome in all of your pictures. Think about it. Do you really want a knome standing next to you in your "first kiss" picture? I don't think so.

BanannaP · September 2009

We are doing a reveal for sure. I wouldn't want it any other way. I just know that when I'm walking down the aisle, I'll have my dad there, and I'll be distracted by the guests, etc. I think that it will be a really special moment for us to have a moment together to collect ourselves and feel a little calmer. When we see each other for the first time that day, I want it to be just us. I think it will be awesome. And then, if we lose it and start crying, it won't be in front of 125 people! Plus: I went to a wedding a few months ago where they did all the pictures after the ceremony. Immediately after the did family pics. Then they came to the reception. Then they left to do bridal party pics. Then they came back to the reception. Then they left to do bride and groom pics. If felt like we were waiting for them the whole time, and it was really boring. I want to be able to finish the ceremony and then get my groove on!

Buttercup509 · September 2009

Either that or she stands behind you and makes funny faces and rabbit ears while your friends take your picture. These pictures all came out great!

fallbride1109 · September 2009

Yeah, that's what we'll have to do too--leave the reception after the first dance to do our pics and I don't want to. I want to be able to relax and enjoy my ever-so-short reception.FI may still say no but I'm going to give it a try tonight I think.

bellagrace · September 2009

My fiance and I want that traditional moment. I have always dreamed of that time walking down the aisle. To save time though we are going to do all the extra pictures before the ceremony. But, what we are going to do to make sure we get great pics is do a "day after shoot". I love those because you get a ton of time and there is no rush. All the ones I have see have come out so cool and artisitic.

untsing · September 2009

I am LOL, you guys. YES, we did a reveal and they are everyone's (inluding ours) favorite pictures!! Granted, I think we had the best reveal ever...but I may be a little biased.

It got rid of a LOT of nerves for us both, and they're some of our most precious moments caught on film/video. I highly recommend it.

fallbride1109 · September 2009

Oh Bellagrace I would love to be able to do that! Those make for some really cool pictures I think.Hee, Mandy I knew what you would say! I love your hair BTW and can't wait to cut mine.

Dreynol1 · September 2009

This is a little late but I think I would have done a reveal too. My husband and I are pretty traditional so we decided against it. However, my walk down the aisle was a blur and I could not see him until I got almost all the way down the aisle. The rush of emotion coupled with a standing congregation blocking my view did not allow very many pictures. I would have liked to see photos with both of our expressions and we just did not get those. I still got great photos and I love them. I am happy with our decision but if I had to make it again I would probably go with a reveal. HTH

lvasilen · September 2009

Steph - Your idea of a reveal is super cute!! We will be seeing each other prior to the wedding as we are getting married at 6 with reception at 7. Also I will be walking down the isle by myself so need to extra anxiety!

JessTX · September 2009

We did a reveal and I loved it. We did it at our house and then got to do all the pictures at the house which was really special and important to me. I loved it. Plus our ceremony and reception were in same place so not all that down time for photos in between or missing the party. It was still very special and emotional.

wagnerj3 · September 2009

We are definitely not doing a reveal. I can't imagine ever doing one. I am traditional in that sense and like Lindsay have always dreamed of that moment where we first see each other with me walking down the aisle. It's one of the most precious moments of a ceremony, to me. We are having a cocktail hour with appetizers and rat pack music at the ceremony site so the guests will be doing that while we photograph. Also, we are having our ceremony at the Crow Collection so people can tour the museum for a bit if they are interested. Steph-how long is your reception? Why are you so short on time? I am not at that stage yet! It will be such a sweet moment, whenever it is!!!!!!!! tell us what you decide!

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