Alexia

vedika · September 2009

bwahahaha..I JUST noticed your "statement" beneath your siggy pic..you little devil ;]

SarahSmile23 · September 2009

*backs out of thread with a smile*

AlexiaANDRobert · September 2009

I don't take kindly to having someone imply that I'm envious of another person's budget.I aspire to be a lot of things and aspire to have a lot of things... one of them is NOT a ridiculous wedding budget.

vedika · September 2009

and this is why we leave you to be the professional badass :]

SRivera09 · September 2009

lol, that's awesome....

BentleyBaby · September 2009

*standing ovation*

sunflowr0803 · September 2009

Alexia, I big pink puffy heart you!!!!

gorjush · September 2009

what I meant by that quote was that it's nice when you see photos of weddings where they obviously had a lot of money to spend and were able to use funds for added little details that not a lot of people can afford to spend money on. if she's got a nice budget for her photographer, i'm guessing she's going to have a really nice, beautiful wedding. i firmly believe that it helps generate ideas for DIY brides and also gets the creative juices flowing when you have a source of inspiration. when i was planning, it was way more exciting for me to look at married bios where the bride/groom had money to spend. in most cases the flowers were spectacular, the ambiance was palpable, and there were tons of great ideas!i would liken it to the couture runways- the looks are amazing & totally OTT, and rather than being tied to anything real or practical, the shows are simply entertaining, fascinating, and an absolute spectacle. but their purpose is to help pull fashion along and to serve as a source of inspiration for the countless ready-to-wear and mass-market designers out there.have none of you girls ever admiringly checked out some of these married bios where evidently a lot of money was spent and the photographer was super talented? you've really never ooh'd and aah'd over unique decor elements or were inspired by a place setting or cake table or some other super-cool & original detail?

vedika · September 2009

Now, it comes across as you're saying if you spend $10,000, $500, or $1 you can't have a nice, beautiful wedding. I think weddings are personal and have a sentimental value regardless of your budget. What makes a wedding is how you choose to put it all into place and all the special, little details make it your own. And, I don't think it's anyone else's place to say "Oh, your wedding isn't up to par as you didn't spend $10,000+"I do ooh & aah at other things, and move on. Living in NYC made me realize that things are expensive and life doesn't always take us the way we want to go, so you have to make do with what you do have. We all have different amounts of money to spend as we choose. I would not want to "aspire" to have a big, laborious wedding that I KNOW I would go into debt for the next however many years. If others choose to do so, then so be it. It is nice to have nice things, yes. But, it's not necessary to spend a big chunk of change to do so.

SRivera09 · September 2009

I resent the fact that you are implying that have a beautiful wedding you must have an inflated budget. I have a small budget but I know my wedding will be beautiful regardless. I think you've probably just offended many brides on this board, myself included. and yes, I have ooh'd and ahh'd at some these at some of those photos. there is no denying that they are beautiful weddings. But who are you to say that you have to have a lot of money to have that beautiful wedding?

skhynes · September 2009

A lot of times I look at those pictures and think, "what a waste of money. No one will remember any of this (decor, etc.)," as was proven by Teresa's thread on what people remember about weddings. So yeah, those weddings can be pretty, but I think it's silly to blow that much on what is essentially a one day party, even if you can afford it. I'd choose to spend my money other ways. But, of course, everyone is entitled to spend their money however they want. And yes, the pics can be fun to look at as well.

BentleyBaby · September 2009

We never said the big expensive weddings weren't entertaining to view.But "aspire" was the offensive word. Of course those "platinum weddings" on tv are definitely spectacle. But I am being 100% completely honest with you when I say that even if I were the richest woman in the world, I would not spend that kind of money on my wedding.I like my budget where it is. That's why it is where it is. I don't "aspire" for it to be less or more. I don't mean to speak for others, but I think they feel the same way.If you are so high maintenance and impossible to please, then that's your opinion. But don't begin to think others feel the same way.

SarahSmile23 · September 2009

i think i am going to spend the next 20 mins oohing and aaahing over my own cheap-ass wedding pics while i thanks steve for not allowing me to spend tons of money on ONE DAY.i do look at pics of platinum weddings, but not with an envious eye. and not to the point where i would indicate that anyone should ever aspire to such a budget. IMO, it's a waste of money that could be spent on a down payment for a home or a college fund for future children. i don't mean that every person who has a huge budget is wasting money. but i think that if you are "aspiring" to a large budget to the point where you are neglecting more IMPORTANT things in life, it's not a good way to start off a marriage. and indicating that a group of girls who already established (hopefully) realistic budgets should aspire to a 4k photography package was no doubt going to rub quite a few people the wrong way. especially in the context of, "it's ok for some random person to insult everyone's less expensive photographers because she is the lucky one and we should all aspire to her budget." if that's now how you intended it, it's how it came across. especially in the midsts of the photograpy insults. not reviews, insults.i'll end this by saying that my favorite wedding i have ever been to was my step-sister Alison's wedding. she got married on a lake and then had a bbq reception at her uncle's house. the cake was crooked, turquoise, and ugly. we nicknamed it the "leaning tower of cake," and Alison laughed so hard about it. they spent a couple hundred bucks on a photographer, and the bride's hair looked really bad because she never thought to do a trial. (she knew it was bad!) the bride and groom had the biggest smiles on their faces all day and laughed at all the things that went wrong. they were extremely gracious and spent tons of time talking to their guests. her cake was a disaster? who cares! they were there to celebrate their day and throw a great party for their guests. i never saw Alison without a huge smile on her face and she came up to Steve, who she had never met before, and hugged him and thanked him FIVE different times for coming. she was so grateful for each person who took time out of their lives to be there for that moment. so when we were planning our weddiing, THAT is what i aspired to. i aspired to be a happy bride, the kind of bride who could have her ugly turquoise cake fall over and still get a twinkle in her eye and make a joke about it. i aspired to be the bride who doesn't have a single photo without her smiling in it. i aspired to be the kind of bride who REALLY spent time with the guests and thanked each one multiple times for coming. i can't thank Alison enough for showing me what weddings are truly about and helping me put our wedding into perspective.

AlexiaANDRobert · September 2009

Can we please forward my standing ovation over to Sarah? I think she might've said it best.Anyway, the thing that rubbed the wrong way (above all), was how you implied that with a bigger budget everything will be better.Why don't we all just re-read your reviews to see how that's not so.Money doesn't buy happiness. And it sure as hell doesn't buy a "better" wedding.

gorjush · September 2009

apparently you all missed my point of clarifying what the quote was about. it was not that bigger budget= better wedding or beautiful wedding. it means having more money to spend on really awesome stuff that can be inspirational to people. never did i say that having a lower, more realistic budget means your wedding isn't as nice or sucks. i apologize if i offended anyone, i sincerely did not mean for you all to construe my comment the way you did. going forward i will be more careful when wording my responses. now can we all move on and play nicely?

AlexiaANDRobert · September 2009

apparently you all missed my point of clarifying what the quote was about. it was not that bigger budget= better wedding or beautiful wedding. it means having more money to spend on really awesome stuff that can be inspirational to people.Apparently, YOU'RE missing the point. Awesome stuff does not inspire me.I always play nicely.

skhynes · September 2009

So what ARE you inspired by Alexia? Bad Assedness?

BentleyBaby · September 2009

it means having more money to spend on really awesome stuff that can be inspirational to people*shakes head* You just. don't. get. it.Spending more money does not inspire me. Why should it? Some cool stuff costs more money, yes. But just because someone spends more on something does not mean I'm inspired by any of it.We play "real" on this board.

gorjush · September 2009

"I always play nicely."by re-posting a quote and being snarky about it? c'mon get real.i have never done anything rude or mean directed at you girls personally. i don't understand the witch hunt.it was a general statement that i made. why are you taking it so personally? are you hyper-sensitive about your budget?

BentleyBaby · September 2009

I'm perfectly happy with my budget. It is more than enough for our wedding. I couldn't be happier with our venue- it's pretty much a dream come true.I'm not taking anything you say personally. I just think you're impossible to please, think you're better than everyone else and rude.

gorjush · September 2009

what have i EVER said to make you think that i consider myself better than any of you? we are all ordinary human beings here. every one is different, every one has different opinions and personalities. that is the beauty of the world.IMO we are all on an even playing field- especially when it comes to the trials and tribulations of planning a wedding.you are making a lot of asinine assumptions leah. but i would expect this from you- someone who posts a rude and juvenile comment on my first dance youtube page- which i do consider a personal attack.

BentleyBaby · September 2009

haha. Okay, given. But you deleted it anyways.And I do not assume Barry White has never performed a "swing" song. I know. As does 99% of the industrialized world.

gorjush · September 2009

leah if you know anything about dance, you would know that any music that has a 4/4 beat and a swinging rhythm can be swing music.hence our music selection.

BentleyBaby · September 2009

Oh so sorry. Next time I can't find Barry White in the R&B or Oldies section I'll remember to look under Swing.

vedika · September 2009

Being on this board makes me realize that I have a wonderful life and the people that are in my life are wonderful :] Everything and anything anyone "says" is a personal attack, well, because it is. If a person doesn't agree or conform with your thoughts, then you take it personally because you don't like what they have to say. [You being a general person].You don't have to sugar coat anything that you want to say on the board, simply say it. Just remember that it is left open for interpretation and we have a lot of opinionated people on the board.We are all playing nicely. It's called freedom of speech.