I was hoping for some honest thoughts about my wedding planning so far... since friends tend to sugar coat my questions with: "It's your wedding, do whatever you want." We are planning an intimate January wedding ceremony and dinner for about 60 people at a brazillian bbq location in chicago that opens at 4 pm. The guests are about half late 20's and half older (50+ ) family members. With a small guest list, and low volume options at a small venue, we are forgoing the traditional "dance party" feel, and are focusing on dinner as the main attraction. The plan is to have an 8 pm after party for the guests that love to dance and party, dancing our first dance at that venue, in the suburbs (our friends and family can't afford chicago accomodation costs, we are paying for transportation to and from both locations since it's a 45-60 min drive from Chicago to the Burbs.) These are my questions: Is it tacky to expect the guests to pay for their own drinks at the after party portion of the evening? Is there too much traveling involved? Would you like to attend this kind of event? BTW- this is my second marriage, my fiance's first