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icebunie · September 2009

What wedding-related thing do you consider the most ridiculous? For me, its definitely bridesmaid newsletters.

jennyinyellow · September 2009

I think I'm going to have to agree with you ice - bridesmaid newsletters

iheartbillyd · September 2009

I'd say the garter and bouquet bit. I know it's "tradition" but really what the hell is the point.

[Deleted User] · September 2009

Getting upset when your BM are not all excited about their newsletters. WTF do you have to say in them? Aren't they your best friends, call them, FB, email.

jessica0602 · September 2009

flame away but i say b-pics.

rumdrinx · September 2009

I am here to say today, Joséthat all of the poems for this and that are all GAY!

[Deleted User] · September 2009

TTD pics.

STBS NYE 09 · September 2009

umm...what's a bridesmaid newsletter?? I have never heard of that but it does sound pretty stupid. I think the dollar dance is pretty ridiculous...people spend enough to come to your wedding and to dance around and ask for money reminds me of a stripper, minus the removal of clothing.

kpenne01 · September 2009

The non-surprise showers. I've never heard of a bride throwing her own shower, so a bride knowing about it and being there to welcome the guests IMO is ridiculous. What's the difference?

jewels2730 · September 2009

This is an unpopular opinion I'm sure, but the "Something borrowed, something blue, something old, something new". I know it's fun and all, but it wasn't interesting to me at all. I wanted didn't want to wear something borrowed, old, OR blue! I don't even like blue. I just wanted new.One of my BFF's did borrow my pearl wedding bracelet for her "something borrowed" and I loved that she wore it.

icebunie · September 2009

The non-surprise showers. I've never heard of a bride throwing her own shower, so a bride knowing about it and being there to welcome the guests IMO is ridiculous. What's the difference? Errr - theres a big difference.

PharmJen · September 2009

Just for the fun of it....I live in MD, my mom is throwing my shower in NJ. I know about it, picked the date, and plan on being there to greet guests. Trying to coax me to drive 2.5 hours on a sat or sun to have "lunch" approximately 2 months before my wedding in order for me to be surprised for my shower is a HUGE waste of energy for everyone involved, IMO.

kpenne01 · September 2009

I had to drive two hours to get to my mom's the day before my shower and she was able to make up an excuse to get me to the restaurant. I don't see what the big deal is.

jewels2730 · September 2009

My family never even heard of a surprise shower. They thought you were supposed to know about it. In fact, they asked me so many goddd dammmn questions that I finally told them that "often" showers are surprises and to leave me out of it. My MIL threw me a shower too in central PA, I also knew what day and when, AND was told I HAD to be there early to greet guests.And I actually don't mind surprises, ironically enough.

[Deleted User] · September 2009

I agree there is no way mine could be a surprise. Come fly to PA for the weekend so we can hit KOP isn't going to cut it.

STBS NYE 09 · September 2009

There is a huge and distinct difference between throwing yourself a shower and knowing about one that others are throwing for you in advance...Throwing yourself a shower is tacky, knowing about your shower in advance is totally normal.

ButtonsPepper · September 2009

I had the FIL's ask me when the date was a lot. And then FMIL telling me all the Saturdays she couldn't do it.... my sister made it on a Sunday, and told me about it, HOWEVER....I don't know anything else, they are keeping everything a secret. FI is taking me to where ever it is... all I'll know is the time... and I haven't even been told that yet. I think it's really different to plan my own shower, vs. people keep it a complete secret except for the day, and then I show up...

kpenne01 · September 2009

I guess I just don't understand. I've never heard of this before and so I just don't get it.I can understand NCV's situation - you're out of the country, but every shower I've ever been to was a surprise to the guest of honor, so I just don't get it. Granted, sometimes people end up figuring it out by registery stalking and other means, but I just don't understand why it wouldn't 'generally' be a surprise.

ButtonsPepper · September 2009

Also, every "surprise" shower I've been to, the bride knew....

[Deleted User] · September 2009

All the recent showers I have been to in the past 5-6 years have not been a surprise. However growing up all showers, wedding or baby, I attended were surprises. I think the trend has just changed.

PhillyCopWife 2 B · September 2009

The Groom to be at the Shower. I guess its sort of off point, but it drives me nuts! I just dealt with issues with this for my sister's wedding and it drives me nuts. But back on point, the garter/bouquet. Total waste of time and breaks up the reception.

jewels2730 · September 2009

Granted, sometimes people end up figuring it out by registery stalking and other means, but I just don't understand why it wouldn't 'generally' be a surprise. Is there a ettiquette rule somewhere that says that ALL showers MUST be a surprise? I've never heard that before in my life. Traditionally in some people's families or regions, this is common, but I've never ever ever heard of a rule somewhere in print that says "Wedding showers MUST be a surprise to the bride."Please enlighten me if I am misinformed. I'm not being snarky or anything, I just am curious to know where the rule originated from.

MrsW2000 · September 2009

I actually had to know the date of my shower because I was traveling all summer for work. I would have been out of the state had they made that a suprise.

candkmc1021 · September 2009

ribbon wands - dumb bmaid newsletters - ridic tears of joy - a waste bathroom baskets - go ahead and flame

kagkiki11 · September 2009

More than one dress for the wedding. Waste of $$ IMO.

rumdrinx · September 2009

You are the Anti Surprise Shower Bully Brigade ! Now, go shut yo moufs!(i also think that surprise showers are ridic. and I might venture to say that if you don't see it coming, well, then you are kinda sorta totally fricking blind)

jessica0602 · September 2009

The Groom to be at the Shower. I guess its sort of off point, but it drives me nuts! I just dealt with issues with this for my sister's wedding and it drives me nuts.um why? the gifts aren't just for you.

PhillyCopWife 2 B · September 2009

Its my opinion. I hate when a guy shows up at the shower. Not that he would consider it, but I told FI not to even think about coming to mine. I think its a day that should be shared among the girls.

PharmJen · September 2009

Rum - EXACTLY. The jig is up on the surprise shower. We all know how it works. The only shower I've been to in the last 5 years where the bride was legit surprised was for my cousin's wife. And that's only because they had it 6 friggin' months before the wedding. Call me new-school, but I'd rather know, even if I lived a mile from the location.

LaRositaMonita · September 2009

ditto kagkiki! I get that in some traditions a bride might have a traditional wedding dress from her family's culture (ane laborate sari, a quipao, which is almost definitely spelled wrong) and then change. However.... A friend who shall remain nameless decided a few months before her wedding that her expensive, elegant, ballgown-style wedding gown was going to be too heavy and cumbersome to dance in....so she spent almost another grand and bought a second "surprise" gown for her reception. My opinion is to save the money and get a gown you'll be happy with all day the first time around! Also not really a fan of the sparkler send-off. I don't really "get it."

rumdrinx · September 2009

where is steffiel when it is Unnecessary Day on the knot?

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