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ugh! last minute guest list drama

diorgrl8diorgrl8 member
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I am so over this, so we JUST found out that FI's dad can't make it because his doctor advises against flying (he has a chronic illness) :( we are heartbroken!!Also, his auntie wants to bring a new bf and two of his cousins can't make it now...I swear, this is so frustrating. She says she'll pay for this last minute guest..but that is not the point.  Now his mom is saying to cancel the transportation since she thinks it's a waste of money.Now i have to send out a mass email to let everyone know the change of plans...But parking is going to be an issue now, since the house only has parking for maybe 3 carsI'm at the point of just wanting it to be done with. :( VENT VENT... Thanks for listening ladies
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    elaineNgeneelaineNgene member
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    edited December 2011
    Aw, sorry to hear about that Hannah!  People just don't get how these kind of last minute changes can throw everything for a loop.  I'm sorry that FI's dad won't be able to watch you get married.  I'm sure he's not too thrilled about it either though, but you can't really go against doctor's orders.Hang in there!!!  Our days are coming up SO FAST!!!!
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    diorgrl8diorgrl8 member
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    edited December 2011
    i know! i'm wanting to fast forward to the wedding just so i can stop stressing already.oh yeah and let's definitely try to meet up for a drink if we have time in between planning...i think we earned a cocktail or two :) I'll see if there are any cool new bars in waikiki worth checking out !
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    tifani27tifani27
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    edited December 2011
    Oh no!!!! That is for sure heart breaking...but it will be ok, who doesn't LOVE emails!!! J/k;). Soon you will be sitting on the beach relaxing, so no worries, but I'll send you some good vibes to get you through!!!
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    fia214fia214
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    edited December 2011
    I had to let all my last min add ons just go. I had to woosaaa (is that how you spell it?)I just brought blank escort cards and filled in at last min. I even created a last min table for people who decided to come within a week or two before the wedding.I started to just think what ever happens happens. I can't control every one an there actions and at the end of the day it's about you two getting married.Do you have to cancel trans ? Is she paying for it? If that's the case you got to do what ever fits your budget. Just advise people to show up early.Don't worry girl it's gonna be fine and you are gonna be such a gorgeous bride!DO YOU NEED ME TO COME OUT AND HELP??? I will gladly leave work!
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    AngelshannAngelshann member
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    edited December 2011
    That really sucks Hannah!! Especially when loved ones can't make it. None of my FI's family is able to make it to the wedding! I feel so horrible about that! It's always the last minute stuff and drama that causes so much frustration. Everything will work out for you and you will be married before you know it!!
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    diorgrl8diorgrl8 member
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    edited December 2011
    aww, thanks ladies, and fia that;s sweet of you...yeah i'd love to leave work and deal with this right now too! I'm so sad for my FI his dad...i mean, my FI was named after his dad, so to have had him there at his wedding meant a lot to him :(i think i'm almost to that point of just completely leaving it up to god and the universe...LOL. What can you do...We still have a week or so before we have to nail down the guest # to our reception venue... so after that, i'll tell them, sorry, this ship has sailed...no more adds! I'm more concerned of drop offs after I set the number...because they still charge you for those who don't show. I'm gonna have a little talk with the whole fam. when we get there...it's so hard to do everything via email and phone.
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    elaineNgeneelaineNgene member
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    edited December 2011
    Hannah, I responded to the other post about getting together.  I know we'll both need a drink or two before the big day :)  Email me at elainengene@gmail.com so we can exchange info.  We'll be arriving to Oahu on 11/3.
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    fia214fia214
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    edited December 2011
    I am so sorry about your FI's dad! That has to hurt! You have the right attitude, leave it in God's hands. It is easier said than done, but you have to have faith!
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    mauidandymauidandy member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry his dad can't make it :(:( I can imagine how upsetting that must be. Hang in there, and know that it's ok to put your foot down with the extra guests at this point! I know it's family...but that's so rude and inconsiderate! Good luck, you're almost at the end!!
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    jujubee96jujubee96
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    edited December 2011
    Hannah, so sorry you have to deal with such hassles right before the wedding.... and I'm so sorry that your FFIL can't come!!  That sucks... Can your FI talk to your FMIL and tell her that cancelling the transpo will make things extremely difficult, and that there is only parking for 3 cars? ((hugs))) and vibes, sweetie... everything is going to work out and you're going to be so happy on your wedding day!
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    amyj513amyj513 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hannah hang in there!  I feel so sorry for you and your FI that his dad can't be there.  You will have to do something special when you get home.Stay in Hawaii for a month and I will have a drink with you!! :)
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    BoBride28BoBride28
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    edited December 2011
    Aaaaah, Hannah! I'm so so sorry about FI's dad! That really is sad news. I hope you guys were planning an AHR so that he will still be able to celebrate with you guys and share in the fun wedding memories. As far as transportation, I would keep it since it seems like it will be a big hassle to cancel. Once you are in Hawaii, I hope all the stress will melt away and you will just be basking in the glow of your wedding! Its so close!
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    maui2011maui2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    So sorry to hear about your FI's dad not being able to attend your wedding.  Have you looked into proving a live fed for him so he could view some of the festivites from home? J.
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    REM2008REM2008
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    edited December 2011
    So sorry to hear about your FI's dad!  That's tough news to hear especially so close to the wedding.  Hang in there. The other stuff will work itself out.  Sending positive Knottie vibes.
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    HappyGoLuckyGalHappyGoLuckyGal
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    edited December 2011
    That sucks! I would be heartbroken, too. Good luck with all the last minute drama. You're almost there.
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    M&M's_MauiM&M's_Maui
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    edited December 2011
    I know I'm pretty late here but I just wanted to say that that sucks!  We were pretty heartbroken too when my grandmas couldn't come.  Sorry you're still having to deal with issues like this.  It's ok... It's almost over!
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