currently WP is lopsided (which bothers me a lot) and has some issues (so far all the planning has been complicated unfortunately).
my side (6):
~My sisters -Maid and Matron of honor- LOVE THEM SO MUCH
~friend#1-long time friend, recently we wne ton a trip together and discovered tension we never knew was there..we butted heads a lot
~friend#2 no problems..love her
~friend #3 has announced that she recently backed out of another friend's wedding and although we are getting married in a year she may not be able to afford to stay in the wedding..but don't worry she will give me "enough notice" and of course still attend the party and the wedding etc.
~ my FI's sister-we were strong armed into asking her by his mom. she has around 8 monthes sober i think..and only a couple sober outside of a treatment house. she is in recovery for a very serious addiction and in the 8 years we have been together she has been MIA for most of it. I don't know her well and i have resentments for what i watched everyone go through in her absense. I am keeping my mouth shut because i am polite. I do care about her.
Junior Bridesmaid (FI's niece who will be 14 i think) We love her so much!
FIs side (5):
His best man/best friend (great guy)
his two best buddies
a friend of ours (someone i grew up with that my FI is friends with now too)
my brother in law (we're a close family.. FI's idea..i had nothing to do with who is in his groomsmen)
I am hoping he can come up with a 6th..however.. with my friend announcing she may not be able to do it...
Another one of the girls (she hasn't said anything) is on a VERY tight budget and one of my sister's is financially strapped most of the time. And his sister's sobriety..who knows ...
It could be a disaster. I am very very nervous with such a possibly unreliable WP. I really wanted balanced numbers..it is something that is important to me. ANy suggestions how i can at least speqak with my one bridesmaid who might bail?? any suggestions as to how to stablize the WP?