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Shower - who throws it?

I read somewhere that the bridesmaids are suppose to throw the shower... All my bridesmaids live in different states, so my mom said she'd like to have one for me in Michigan (where i am from and about 3/4 of the Guests are coming from). I told her that I am sure the two BMs that live in MI would be happy to help if she wanted it. So I guess I'm curious...Do you think it really matters who throws the shower (mom/fmil vs. moh/bridesmaids)

Re: Shower - who throws it?

  • cjbwifey2010cjbwifey2010 member
    Fifth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I dont think it really matters. I would rather have my mom throw it then have my FMIL throw it though. I think that if your mom can throw it and your BMs can help that would be awesome. My MOHs and BMs are planning it, but i'm pretty sure that the shower will be at my mom's house so she will have to help anyway. It doesn't matter, as long as they know what to do!
  • Amy00005Amy00005 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I agree it does not matter who throws the shower. Usually the groom's family does not throw the showers though from what I have heard. But my FI's family helped with both, so that's why I say it doesn't matter. The MOH is supposed to throw the Lingerie shower and Bachelorette party I do believe. But don't get all caught up in who is "supposed" throw the showers. If someone offers and ur ok with it, then let them. Hope it all goes well!
  • edited December 2011
    It just depends on who wants to do it and what kind of shower you are having. My MOHs threw mine but my MOHs mom ended up doing most of the work! lol. Either way it will be awesome!
  • edited December 2011
    My mom, SIL, one BM and FMIL hosted my shower, and it was at FMIL's house. My MOH and other BM's don't live in central florida, SIL (and my neice, who was really excited to help) offered to host and my mom and FMIL wanted to be involved as well. BM was pretty busy with work and school, so she was in charge of the games and the favors, and the other hosts took care of everything else. I think technically moms aren't supposed to host, but we didn't care. They wanted to do it, and I wasnt going to tell them they couldnt.
  • bluepoet2007bluepoet2007 member
    Eighth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I agree with all the PPs. I know traditional etiquette says moms (especially) aren't supposed to throw the shower 'cause it looks gift-grabby, but I've been reading more opinions lately that it DOESN'T matter. And it really doesn't make a difference. My mom, aunt and MOH hosted mine, and no one thought anything of it. If your mom wants to throw you a shower and your BMs are willing to help, go for it! :)
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