So last night we needed FMIL & FFIL's opinion on something WR. After we were done talking, his mom wanted to know why we're not having FI's two brothers in the wedding with us. She went on to say, well Cindy has a sister so that could be her MOH and you have 2 BM. As politely as I could, I told her that I'm not close enough to my sister and would not have made her my MOH. She then proceeded to say that's okay, you can have 2 BM with no MOH's even when FFIL told her how uneven that would be. So we told her that we we're honoring them as much as possible, short of having them stand with us. We've also had this convo with FBIL's so they know the situation. Mommy doesn't need to come fight their battles. Then the argument (because it always turns into an argument) progressed to them comparing Eric and his brother vs. me and Eric's sister-in-law and how they let the families do all these things for their wedding that we're not doing. Hello, we can't even do half of those things ourselves. Eric made a very valid point that of course she didn't get. He said that we've asked their opinion on everything we can. And in most cases they've given it, with no enthusiasm. Besides that, the only other time they bring up the wedding is to tell us something that we're doing wrong. NONE of them have come to say they're excited, or give constructive suggestions, or to ask us how things are going. After some things we're brought up comparing FSIL to me, I started balling and had to leave the room. In the end everyone agreed to disagree. Eric said that if his brothers really had an issue with him then they should have come to him or even told him when he brought it up. Otherwise what are we supposed to think? Needless to say, we had a few drinks to end the night. Ugh, why does drama always come up with them? Can't they just be happy for us once?