FMIL is driving me insane... Fi and I got engaged this past December. When we went to his mom to tell her, SHE ASKED US what she could do to help. We told her everything that we were planning on doing, and she said "O.K. I would like to pay for the church as my gift to you, and I will make a dish for the reception." (My mom is catering) A few weeks after this talk we moved in with his mom for a little bit to be closer to his job...which was AWFUL because she is just not a very nice person sometimes... but she didn't know we were upset and we never fought or anything... but then we moved back home to my Mom's because my grandfather broke his neck and is paralyzed so I needed to be closer to my family. (We are buying our own place after the wedding) We don't have alot of money and this whole wedding is DIY... and it is only three weeks away. We went to dinner with his mom a few weeks ago and he asked her if everything was still o.k. with her paying for the church and making a dish (he was very tactful but we just wanted to make sure we had time to prepare in case she couldn't). She said it was not a problem at all. Went to visit a week ago... he let her know the priest asked us to bring the money the night of the rehearsal dinner and not the day of... and she went "oh yea I forgot to tell you I can't pay for that." We were a little shocked but he said "oh o.k. what about the food at the reception?" and all she said was "I don't think I am going to do that either... and I wanted to know when you were going to buy your aunt and I's outfits." ..... !!??..... I don't know where this came from. She just said it so nonchalant like telling us three weeks before the wedding that she wasn't going to do the one thing for the wedding she said she WANTED to do, and then asking us for money to buy her and his aunt clothes... was just fine. Now I understand if she didn't have the money or whatever... the "it being three weeks before the wedding part when she has been saying that it wasn't a problem at all this whole time, and the following up that statement with when are you buying us our outfits" that blew my mind. Ok so we let her gently know that we couldn't afford to buy their outfits, and we just let it go. She actually got mad that we weren't buying her clothes... ANYWAY.... A few days ago we went to get his birth certificate from his mom so we could rush order his passport for the honeymoon... and she sits us down and says "I don't think you want me to be a part of your wedding, you havent included me in any of the planning." OK? So apparently we didn't sit together when we got engaged and tell her everything we were planning and she didnt PICK what she wanted to do... and then bail on it. Then she trued telling us she has three people who need last minute invitations and that I could just drop them off at her house.. and that we needed to find transportation for her for the wedding day. Fi said he thought we had gone over the planning list a while ago, and she just made a wierd face and droppped the subject and asked him how we were going to get her there. We were so frustrated at that point that we just let her know that the three invitations she needed couldnt happen because we already gave my mom the head count, and that she could call to see which family members could take her to and from the day of the wedding. I just needed to vent.. I don't really understand her lol