Hi all,My SO of 3.5 years and I aren't yet engaged, but are seriously discussing marriage, most likely this spring. Here's the background. I was raised CATHOLIC with a capital C. My parents are extremely devout and conservative. SO's parents are Catholic and Lutheran and he was raised Lutheran, but his parents aren't practicing. Neither of us are currently practicing any faith. We'd like to do a very small, sort of informal ceremony with a larger reception. I haven't spoken to my parents about this yet, but they are very traditional and would most likely be paying for everything (my sister got married not too long ago and Mom and Dad covered everything). I don't know what our options are as far as finding some kind of compromise that won't make my folks go nuts. Ideally, I'd like to have a family member who is an ordained minister in a Christian but admittedly non-traditional faith perform the ceremony in a non-church setting. Would it be possible to have a priest there too and perform some kind of blessing? I'm so anxious about this, because when my sister got married, our parents completely took every aspect of the wedding over with the mindset of "our money, our decisions", and she had the huge formal catholic wedding. That is so completely the opposite of what we want and I'm hoping my parents have gotten that out of their system now, but I just don't know. Sorry this was a novel, but any advice would be appreciated.