hi everyone, OK, i need a little reality check here. at the moment FI is thinking about the following events for our wedding weekend (we are expecting about 1/2 of our 200+ guests to be from out of town): Friday night: Kabbalat Shabbat & shabbat dinner - for close family & out of towners Saturday morning: Aufruf & standup kiddush lunch Saturday night: "rehearsal dinner" + havdallah - for close family & out of towners sunday: wedding all day - followed by after party monday: brunch somewhere in there we have to find time for mikveh with just a few friends/family. it just seems like an awful lot of events, especially on the saturday. i'm thinking that after the aufruf people will want to have the day to themselves, rather than attending yet ANOTHER wedding event. and it's also about me too. personally, i need a lot of alone-time in order to relax, and large events are not my thing. i much prefer a small group than a large party. how are you all handling all these events? is this typical, or is FI being over the top with the pre-wedding expectations? what do you all think? v.