I know this type of post may belong in the "wedding party" board, but I am sure I will get chewed up, so I am posting for your help here since I love my OBX brides/groom!
I need some input re my wedding party. We aren't sure if we want just FI's brother as the BM and my sister as the MOH or a whole wedding party. FI has a huge group of close friends, and it would be hard for him to pick just a few to be in the wedding. I have 4 best friends from college and other bestie I would love to all have in my party, so 5 total (plus sister as MOH), which I think is a good size.
So here are the issues- my best friend (K) is no longer friends with one of my other friends (A). Long story, but basically A is now seriously dating K's ex BF. Other good friend J is no longer close with A either, but another long story, they are no longer friends. Other friend L lives out of country. So that sums up my group of close friends, we were all super close at one time, lived together all through college and were close for 9 years and now are completely broken up just over the past year and a half
. I have one other great friend (H) who I would want to include how gets along with all.
My options are:
- MOH/BM only- simple and drama free
- Best friend K & H and MOH (with three total on his side)- this excludes the drama with my college friends and still allows me to have two of my best friends part of the day, but will cause some friction with the girls I don't include
-All friends (6 total on each side) with insane drama
To add to this, my friends now live all throughout the country. I have seen all (expect L who is out of the country) since I have been engaged, and all want to know about the wedding and wedding party (not poking around in a rude way, just excited for me and wondering if they should plan to be a part of the day if that makes sense). I have ultimately ended up telling all of them I am confused right now. With the exception of this weekend when best friend K came down. I am in her wedding in three months, we go talking about it, I broke down and said she needed to be part of the day, whither its a reading or a bridesmaid.
This on my mind all the time. I was totally leaning towards just my sister as MOH, but don't want to put all that responsibility solely on her for a number of reasons. I also think about how much fun it would be to share with day with my best friends.
So now that I have completely confused you...any opinions on what the heck I should do?