I am not sure how to deal with this situation and could use some advice.
FI is in an industry where they work in shifts and some will have to work late. As he calls it, he has tiers of work friends- people he socializes with outside of work, people at work who he doesn't but more so because they are on different rotations and they are buddies at work, and people he doesn't really like...lol.
We are having an "after party", not sure what else to call it. Venue is a waterfront restaurant/bar, our reception is under a tent with its own bar and they have another outside bar and entertainment area. The venue will have a band that comes on at 10, we'll end around 9:30 and venue said we can stay, they just have to shut down our bar (open bar during our reception) and we would have to use the other bar which will be cash, no exceptions. We are thinking of doing more food, kind of like another cocktail hour. No idea how I will get them a head count for this , I might be able to make a guess. That is one problem.
Second problem, FI thinks we should do a separate invite to his coworkers who he knows will not be able to attend the ceremony and reception because of sched, but who could make "party". I think we should just invite everyone to the ceremony and reception (that he is friends with), but not sure whether or not to put a note in there about everyone staying late so those on shifts would know heah swing by. Or do we just do word of mouth. FI said ettiquette is not an issue because his work buddies would not know it if it jumped up and bit them in the a$$. Gotta love men, lol. But I am also perplexed about informing other guests about staying if they like, is word of mouth ok? People who already know about the "party" (close friends and family) are real excited because the band is awesome and the fact that we can all stay where we are and none of them want the wedding to end at 9:30pm.
Thanks, and again, sorry so long.
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