How did you know?

WildRumpus · October 2010

A friend and I were having a heart to heart the other day, and she asked me how I knew that I wanted to marry Rick. It got me thinking, so now I'm curious....how did you know that your FI/H was "the one"?

mandapanda78 · October 2010

He found out exactly how crazy I was ... and didn't run for the door. That's when I knew.

kikibaby · October 2010

When I realized I could totally be myself around him.

laurenclaire1386 · October 2010

It's not something I can readily explain. I've tried to before and there just isn't a way for me to tell somebody how I knew. I just knew. I can't remember at what point exactly I figured it out, but it was before he proposed. It was the weirdest thing. I've never been so sure of anything in my life.

akhensley81 · October 2010

Our first date ended up lasting for 3 days... and on that third day he called his mom and said, "Mom, I've met the girl I'm going to marry."

That pretty much did it for me.

Anysunrise · October 2010

I was really craving peanut butter sandwichs, but we didn't have any bread or peanut butter. I didn't want to bother him at work, so I figured I'd just ask him to pick it up the next day.

That night he brought home bread and peanut butter, and said 'I remembered you like to snack on these, so I picked some up."

Yup, peanut butter sandwiches was all it took. I loved that he a) remembered something I had said months ago and b) cared enough about me to make sure I was as happy as possible.

crfische · October 2010

I just knew? No? Too cliche, right?

ummm...When we went to the Vikings game on one of our first dates and he missed the kickoff to go get me a beer? Which was totally not my intention, I felt really bad about it.

It was a lot of little things. One thing in particular that sticks out was one night when he spent the night at my house and he got up SUPER early for work. When I left for work that morning, there was a note on my windshield that said

"We think he's perfect for you. Love, Howie and Lyla." They are my beloved cats.

mandapanda78 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_did-18?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:423a109c-0c68-4f74-b5cc-484a27c558e9Post:97f75f1a-73af-426e-80e2-01a70dc97840">Re: How did you know?</a>:
[QUOTE]I just knew? No? Too cliche, right? ummm...When we went to the Vikings game on one of our first dates and he missed the kickoff to go get me a beer? Which was totally not my intention, I felt really bad about it. It was a lot of little things. One thing in particular that sticks out was one night when he spent the night at my house and he got up SUPER early for work. <strong>When I left for work that morning, there was a note on my windshield that said "We think he's perfect for you. Love, Howie and Lyla." They are my beloved cats.</strong>
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Oh holy crap. That is possibly the most adorable thing I've ever heard.

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crfische · October 2010

I just about died, but I cried instead. That pretty much did it for me.

Anysunrise · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I just knew? No? Too cliche, right? ummm...When we went to the Vikings game on one of our first dates and he missed the kickoff to go get me a beer? Which was totally not my intention, I felt really bad about it. It was a lot of little things. One thing in particular that sticks out was one night when he spent the night at my house and he got up SUPER early for work. When I left for work that morning, there was a note on my windshield that said "We think he's perfect for you. Love, Howie and Lyla." They are my beloved cats.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Aww! That's so awesome.

FutureMrsTR · October 2010

I don't know if I can explain it. I told my friend who was with me the day I met H that I was going to marry him. I just knew. Little things he's done since then like taking care of me when I was sick, caring so much about my mom and my great aunt who are so important to me, and the fact that I can completely be myself around him have solidified that feeling, but I always knew.

We met on a Saturday and were basically inseparable from then on. He spent the night (PG13 style) the 4th day we were together and (I found this out later) called his mom on his way home the next morning and told her he was staying up here (he had been looking for jobs all around the country) because of me.

Beachy730 · October 2010

I really don't know what it was. But we were an LDR and after a few months of one of us driving over 2 hours back and forth each weekend, I realized that he must be worth it.

waltzingmatilda13 · October 2010

Yeah, I just knew. From the moment we started spending time together it was like we knew each other our whole lives. We got every joke and look to the point that we joked we were an old married couple when we had just started dating. It also helped that my whole family kept pointing out how happy I looked and that I seemed like a completely new person, for the better.

laurenclaire1386 · October 2010

I guess one thing that made me know this was different was that I was willing to do a LDR with him. Previously, LDRs seemed like the worst thing ever to me and there was no way in hell I could maintain a relationship with someone I saw on a limited basis. But I was wrong and it worked

alainn15 · October 2010

When we broke up for a week. Lol. Weird, but it was the worst break up ever. It was because he wanted kids and I didn't, so we decided to go our separate ways. I was miserable all week. With every other breakup I had a good cry and then it was off to the next step, but with him, I couldn't move past the feeling that something was wrong. He sent me flowers three days later, then after five days he told me he would rather be with me over having kids. That's when I knew it was just right. It's not something one can explain easily. This was just one moment out o many that I felt I could be with him forever. Funny thing is, I might have changed my mind about having more kids after seeing him with so many of our friends babies and how he acts around them.

xyrius · October 2010

He's my best friend. And I can be myself around him. And I think he's the sexiest man alive. Plus he's an amazing dad... etc. etc.

Yes I'm back, I have no willpower.

emilyinchile · October 2010

Fishy, that's so cute!

This isn't one moment, but in general I have always felt really cared for with H. I'm a big girl, I don't need someone else to take care of me, but it's nice to know that he will, ya know? That's something I hadn't really had with previous BFs, great as they may have been in other ways, and it's something that made me see a) he was a man rather than a boy, and this was a serious, grown up relationship and b) I liked how it felt.

heartxsongs · October 2010

Thinking about this, I can't really see a turning point where I had a revelation or anything about us being right for each other. We have always been so close since the start of our relationship, since we were friends first. I've never pictured myself with anyone else while with him.

And I love the fact that your H left you a note from your cats, Fishy. My mom always signs our family birthday and Christmas cards with our names and our cats names, lol.

danieliza1127 · October 2010

We had been together for 6 years but had a couple of breakups in there. The last time we got back together, I moved back in with him. I knew that time it was for real, that we kept coming back to each other, that we had grown a lot in our time apart, etc. I knew. What really sealed it though was his accident when he broke both of his knees. Something snapped for both of us and I remember thinking back and being amazed and at the same time not surprised at all by my total and complete devotion to him and to taking care of him. Like there was never another option in the universe. It's hard to explain. That whole experience sealed the deal for both of us.

Our officiant even worked some of that into our wedding ceremony.

Wrkn925 · October 2010

When I started to diet, he went grocery shopping for me. He would cook healthy dinners, and pack my breakfast and lunch for me.
He made sure to tell me he loved me just the way I was, but he supported me trying to start a healthier lifestyle. He bit his tongue when I had wings a beer one night, and packed me lunch with a love note the next day.

crfische · October 2010

These are cute stories!

I think he knew that the way to my heart was through my cats. One day he also left a HUGE rubber ducky in my shower with a sign on his bill that said "I'm going quackers for you!"

He's just kinda cheesy like that.

sarah0725 · October 2010

Well, we were friends for about four years before we started going on, so it took me a long time to catch on (probably not the worst thing in the world in hindsight because we met when I was 17 and he was 19 and neither of us were ready). There are a few incidents, but one that sticks out in my mind is that early in our relationship, we were driving home from a speedskating meet in upstate NY, and the idiot light came on to get more gas. So we started looking for an exit with a gas station, but we were both tired, and we didn't realize that we could have pulled off at an exit, and I started freaking out and beating myself up because I should have been more alert. And he said, "It's not your fault. I should have been looking, too. Anyway, what's the worst that could happen?"

Before that point, I had never been in a car with a guy (including my dad) who didn't freak out at every little thing and yel at me if I was supposed to be providing directions but messed up somehow. That was when I started to realize that Charlie was special.

Jelenny · October 2010

Wow....well he tried to date me and I went MIA (he calls it my Nike Defense) since I ran every time he tried to get close to me....through a terrible relationship he tried to get me to break up with my abusive ex, which I didn't at his request, but he remained a friend. I ended up having a nasty breakup with said ex and didn't tell the now Fi for the longest time since I needed to be good on my own....

The whole time I had a key to his apt he said no questions asked if I needed needed somewhere to stay I could. Never did....

He randomly texted me he had people over and asked if I wanted to stop by - so I did. I ended up catching him up on the drama and we never missed a beat. He never judged me for my decisions, and his coworkers cornered me one night out with the crew and asked if we were dating or what I did to him. They just said he was so happy....

I think I knew he was the one...he weathered my storm, my bagage, knows my quirks, has seen me at my worst....so he definitely deserves me at my best. Sure he has plenty of jokes of how I ran away (Nike Defense) so my joke is I will be wearing Nikes on the wedding day.

Beachy730 · October 2010

Stupid TK posting before I'm done.

I had a huge streak going of getting rid of guys after 2 weeks. 2 weeks was all it took for me to find some glaringly big problem or thing I hated about them that made me not be able to stand them anymore. My friends all knew it and it was a running joke with them whenever I met someone, and they'd say "eh, we'll see in 2 weeks." One of my best friends and I bought season tickets to the Bills with a huge group of people, and H was in the group. We met on the shcool bus we had all rented on our way to the home opener and were inseperable all game. A few weeks later that same friend asked how he was, and then he said "if this guy lasts more than 2 weeks, you're going to marry him." I laughed and then he asked how long it had been, and I said 2 and a half weeks. I guess he was right.

danieliza1127 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]These are cute stories! :) I think he knew that the way to my heart was through my cats. One day he also left a HUGE rubber ducky in my shower with a sign on his bill that said "I'm going quackers for you!" He's just kinda cheesy like that.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

That is so cute! And also the note on the windshield story. Awww.

I opened the fridge this morning to see what I could grab for lunch and saw that my H had sweetly arranged a tupperware of homemade soup, a yogurt, some granola, and an orange all in there for me to grab and go. Your duck story reminded me. :)

crfische · October 2010

AWWW!! Packed lunch!! ♥

FutureMrsTR · October 2010

Also, the first night he kissed me we stayed up until 4am on the front porch just talking. Ok and kissing.

And when I went to work the next day I had someone ask me if I was on drugs because I was so happy.

cengle · October 2010

Fishy, your husband sounds like the most adorable person ever.

I knew pretty early on, and this may sound strange, but I knew he was the one when I had no interest in anyone else. I have always developed crushes on people, even when I was in relationships (I never acted on them, though). I would develop a crush on someone, then lose interest quickly. But after I met Alex, no one else even crossed my mind in that way at all.

WildRumpus · October 2010

LC, I'm a lot like you. I was trying to explain it to her, and just couldn't come up with the right words. As cheesy as it sounds, it's just always made sense for us. I asked Rick about it too, and he said "I've never really thought about NOT being with you-it just wasn't an option" It was kind of a scary thing to think about in high school-being SO certain that I had found the person that I was just supposed to be with, but now, it's almost comforting, if that makes sense. I think we both just feel so incredibly lucky to have found each other so early.

crfische · October 2010

He's relatively awesome.

And he still does super sweet stuff on the regular. I lucked out.

angiebear11 · October 2010

FI and I are dorks and celebrate our dating anniversary. The day before we were going to go out for dinner to celebrate (I don't remember the year), I was talking to one of my co-workers and she asked what I was doing that night and I told her I was going out to celebrate my anniversary. She replied "I didn't know you were married!" and then I explain to her that I wasn't, etc. But when I told her I wasn't married to my then BF, I realized at that moment that I wanted to be.

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