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Jacklyn27Jacklyn27
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So i have a very large family and a majority of them are coming from out of town and will be at the rehearsal dinner.  I would say at least 70 people from my side of the family will be at the dinner.  My fiance has a very small family and they are all local... about 10 -15 people, including his parents and grandma.  So my question is, should his fmaily be invited to the rehearsal dinner even though they are local?  I was thinking I should invite them because there arent that many of them and I dont want his parents to feel left out since they really wont know anyone.  What are your thoughts?  Hope that wasn't too confusing.  Thanks. 
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    zippitybzippityb member
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    Might as well.
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    Cynthia1207Cynthia1207 member
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    I don't get why they wouldn't be invited.
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    Jacklyn27Jacklyn27
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    I was just under the impression that only out of towners come to rehearsal dinner, but didnt think it was a big deal to add 15 more people... just wanted other opinions.  Thanks.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-question-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:39996c8e-8200-464d-bf8f-d23e3cc820cdPost:f660b76b-ea41-478b-9594-bab7cb28b77e">Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question -</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't get why they wouldn't be invited.
    Posted by Cynthia1207[/QUOTE]

    Because they're local. RD = wedding party participants and immediate family. Some people also do OOT guests.
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    zippitybzippityb member
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    If it's going to be a gigantor thing, I don't think having 15 extra people would be that big of a deal.
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    <div style="text-align:left;">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-question-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:39996c8e-8200-464d-bf8f-d23e3cc820cdPost:479e8c63-7257-4b1d-bcbd-611b34230051">Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question -</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal Dinner Question - : Because they're local. RD = wedding party participants and immediate family. Some people also do OOT guests.
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    Okay...sorry it's not customary to do RD in Canada, Montreal anyway.  I still don't get why they wouldn't be invited if she's inviting all of her OOTs when it's supposed to be immediate family.  She did say those 10-15 people include his parents and grandparents which to me is immediate family...  Maybe I'm just reading this wrong...My opinion still stands:  Invite them.
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    mica178mica178 member
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    I'd invite them so that your FILs don't feel totally overwhelmed by your guests.
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    OP, how big is your wedding?
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    ehathewaehathewa
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    Yes, invite them. 
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    Jacklyn27Jacklyn27
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    I would like 150 people at the most but as of now its looking more like 180-200.  
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    Gismo123Gismo123
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    Your Rehersal dinner is usually for people in the wedding party and immediate family...some people go the distance and do the OOT people but you don't have to.  I found it kind of nerve racking that you want all your OOT people there but not you're FI local family which included important family members.  If you're on a budget keep it to only the wedding party and people like Mom, dad, grandma,  and grandpa.

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