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Does this mean I have to invite her?

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I have a family friend at my church who I asked to do hair and makeup for my bridesmaids. She said she would do it free of charge and it would be her wedding gift to me. This also happened with our cakebaker. I CANNOT afford to invite anyone else and I have already cut the guestlist tremendously. Does this mean I have to invite her?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_this-mean-invite-her-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d0743ed-d632-4f19-805e-02c71ca798cdPost:a70dfdcc-ee28-4a92-8d34-8ac206ab3c79">Does this mean I have to invite her?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have a family friend at my church who I asked to do hair and makeup for my bridesmaids. She said she would do it free of charge and it would be her wedding gift to me. This also happened with our cakebaker. I CANNOT afford to invite anyone else and I have already cut the guestlist tremendously. Does this mean I have to invite her?
    Posted by SoccerChic31[/QUOTE]
    Is your wedding THAT expensive that you cannot afford to pay for an extra person to attend?  I'm willing to bet that your PP price is less than you would end up paying another vendor to do your hair and makeup.  Invite her or pay her.
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  • bmoruzzibmoruzzi member
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    That's a good point, pp, I hadn't thought of that.  But, I totally agree, those services would definitely be more expensive than their dinner would cost, even if you're having a super fancy wedding.
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    I agree with Tide. Are a few more people really going to hurt when you are getting their services for free? Do you know how much money you are saving? I think the least you could do would be to invite them to the ceremony and reception.
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  • squirrlysquirrly member
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    Yeah, I kinda think so.  It's possible she won't attend, of course.  But yes, the most polite thing to do would be to invite her. 

    Are you REALLY at the budget limit?  And, I agree with Tide - Our cake was 6x our pp cost for the reception.  Hair & makeup was 5x.  So, inviting these two people saves you 9 people's worth of reception costs, if your costs are similar to mine. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_this-mean-invite-her-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9d0743ed-d632-4f19-805e-02c71ca798cdPost:55caa9f6-8f36-420d-9841-cfbc7da6bc01">Re: Does this mean I have to invite her?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I agree with Tide. Are a few more people really going to hurt when you are getting their services for free? Do you know how much money you are saving? I think the least you could do would be to invite them to the ceremony and reception.
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    Since a MUA for a bride can be $350 and a cake almost double that, I don't see that problem
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    BTW, that means yes

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  • squeakyducksqueakyduck member
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    Yes, you have to invite her. And if she's married, you have to invite her husband too.

     I have to agree with PPs that four extra people, (who are being really generous and providing their services to you free of charge.) will probably cost less than the cost of hair and makeup and a cake. 
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