ok.. we have just started planning out wedding ( march 2011) and i'm already seeing issues with my mom. we aren't as close as she wants to believe and have just got to the point where i even want to talk to her on a frequent basis. my mom lived with me in 2004 and it just did not work well at all. so needless to say we have some baggage that we are overcoming. either way she lives over 6 hours away and doesn't have a vehicle, my FH and i live literally around the corner from my FMIL, i still only see her once or twice a week becasue our work schedules conflict. i am very close to my FMIL.. i've known her for 16 years. my mom gets upset whenever we involve my FMIL. however we've asked my FMIL to perform our ceremony ... i would like to involve my mother as well.. maybe a reading or something.. however i know from experience that my mom cannot be trusted to stick to a reading, not say inappropriate and overly emotion declarations, or make it all about herself....all experiences from my first wedding. how do i involve her without having to be worried that i will have to spend my entire wedding day mending fences or appologizing to everyone...or gettting a migrain becasue my mother is telling patently false tales?