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Invitation Wording

meagan.careymeagan.carey
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Hello!

ANY ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS/IDEAS ARE GREATLY APPRECAITED!

 I'm trying to figure out the wording for my invitations. I have the Emily Post books, and have searched high and low and cannot find any advice on my situation so hopefully someone out there will have some suggestions.

My fiancé’s parents are divorced, his father is still single and his mother is remarried.  My parents are still married.

However, my fiancé’s parents (both sets) and I am paying for the wedding.

At this point my parents haven't contributed any $$, but I want them to feel included in the day and I would like to include them on the invitation, but I don’t want to offend his parents.

I would happily let them take “credit” (I can’t think of any other word to use) for the money I’m contributing, but again I don’t want his parents to feel under appreciated.   

With that being said, here are my questions:

Would it be considered improper to include my parents if his parents are giving more money?

Is using “together with their parents” improper?

Is using “together with their families” improper?

Has anyone had a similar situation? 

 

Thank you in advance for your help on this, I really appreciate all feedback!!

 

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Re: Invitation Wording

  • kara811kara811 member
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    We're including both of our parents on our invitations, whether they are contributing or not. Raising your and your FI alone is already a big contribution and honor from your parents. Put your parents on there too. "Together with their parents" isn't improper either. 
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  • CellesCelles member
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    "Together with their families" and "together with their parents" are both fine -- and probably the best possible solution for this.
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  • squirrlysquirrly member
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    It is completely permissible to include both sets of parents on the invite regardless of who is contributing money.  (Afterall, the did contribute YOU, and they might very well be contributing moral support, which is pretty valuable too.)  The decision you need to make is if you want it to appear that the parents (all) are hosting or that you and your FI are hosting.  I'm guessing you want the parents to appear to be hosting.  Here's the wording for that:

    Mr. and Mrs. Bride Dad Last
    Mr. and Mrs. Groom Stepdad Last
    Mr. Groom Dad Last
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of their children

    Miss Bride Middle Last
    to
    Mr. Groom Middle Last

    Saturday, the eighth of May
    two thousand ten
    at half after five o'clock in the afternoon

    Venue Name
    Address
    City, State

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    If you want to do Together with their families/parents, it looks like this:

    Together with their parents/families

    Miss Bride Middle Last
    and
    Mr. Groom Middle Last

    request the pleasure of your company
    at their marriage/wedding

    Saturday, the eighth of May
    two thousand ten
    at half after five o'clock in the afternoon

    Venue Name
    Address
    City, State

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  • meagan.careymeagan.carey
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    Thank you everyone!!! I really appreciate the advice!
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