Mostly just a vent - with CN at the bottom.
I live three hours away from my hometown where my fiance and I are getting married. Three of my bridesmaids are my younger sisters - the oldest of which, who is 22, got married last year.
I'm trying really hard to do things differently from her wedding, which should seem like it would be easy to do, but so far, I'm running into weird details, starting with the wedding date. My sister got married November 21, and we are getting married November 20. Same weekend. I tried really hard not to pick that date - but the venue was booked all the other weekends in November, couldn't do it on Thanksgiving weekend, December wouldn't work, January is a crapshoot with weather, we didn't want to wait longer than that and so on - so whatever. Who cares.
The lady who's decorating my reception hall is excited because one of my colors is pewter. She goes "oh, the table cloths we used for your sister's wedding have pewter in them!" They are GORGEOUS but they are pretty distinctive (they are black with a really recognizable paisley pattern on them)... and using the same ones on the same weekend just doesn't sit well with me.
With less than five months to go, we still have yet to order bridesmaids dresses. Not many dresses at David's Bridal come in pewter, so we were limited to choice in the dress - one of the dresses - YUP - is the same dress my sister had us wear at her wedding. My mom was like "well they are really flattering dresses! We can just use the same ones!" Yeah, ok, except, I want them to wear different ones?! David's came out with their new fall line of dresses so I had my two girlfriends who are my other bridesmaids go and try on another really cute strapless gown that came in pewter, and they LOVED it. FANASTIC! I just had to wait for my sisters to come try them on.
They came yesterday. Drove the three hours to try on the dresses. Around lunchtime, I got a call from my sister (matron of honor) and she says "Well, we don't like the dresses. They make us look wide, and like we have a tummy. We should just use the dress that I used." After that she rushed me off the phone, saying they had to hurry up because they had one other errand to run and they had to get out of town. When I asked her why she didn't call me so I could go and see them in the dress, she just says "Oh, I dunno." Did they have time to go back so I could see them? Nope.
...WTF?
One of my other bridesmaids is a little heavier and she told me that the dress didn't make her feel wider or fat at all, in fact she says she felt gorgeous in it, and after talking with my two younger sisters - they actually really like the dress. So basically it's my matron of honor who's being extremely picky for whatever reason, which I really don't get. She is ALWAYS extremely difficult about everything, not just wedding things.
I am livid. I'm pretty close to just throwing my hands up and saying screw it, and having my mom (she's paying for my sister's dresses) just order the damn dresses. I just can't believe my sister could travel three hours, put on a dress for two minutes, say no, not let me see it, and then have to leave as fast as she can.
AND since I know this is a "wall of text" here's some CN: I'm angry with my matron of honor sister because she traveled three hours to try on a bridesmaids dress I want my girls to wear, didn't call to have me come with them to see them in it, vetoed the dress, and rushed out of town.
