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Askings bridesmaids to be in the wedding

StefanieS5StefanieS5
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When you ask your bridesmaids to be a part of the wedding, do you typically do a get together with them all together or just ask them each individually?

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  • FluffernutFluffernut
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    I asked mine individually, in person if possible.  When I asked, it was very informal, but some ladies do special gifts or poems or pictures, etc. to ask theirs.  The sky's the limit, I suppose.
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  • elldee333elldee333 member
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    my friend mailed us all cookies that said "will you be my bridesmaid" on it with a really sweet note. I live 550 miles away, so mine was kind of squished when I got it, but I was still able to read it and thought it was really cute.

    another friend mailed us each a card writing out how much she valued our friendship and whatnot and at the end asked us to be in the wedding.

    Granted I live far away from both, so I'm not sure if she hand delivered to some of the local BMs, but that's an option as well.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    Ask them each individually.

    If you ask in a group, they'll feel pressured to say yes. Someone might have a question or a concern (maybe she's low on money, maybe she's pregnant and doesn't want to spill the beans to everyone yet, etc.) and she might feel intimidated to talk about it in a group. Or they might just not feel like doing it but would feel biitchy or like a downer saying no in front of a group.

    Ask in private so that they can confidently talk it over with you if they need to.
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  • emidle2008emidle2008 member
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    I gave these boxes to my girls on the day we went dress shopping. Very easy to make. Small cardboard boxfrom Micheal's, tissue paper, Sharpie, gitter glue and a ring pop. They loved them and almost got as emotional as I did when FI gave me a little box. :)
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  • librababylibrababy
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    I just asked them (3 I had to ask over the phone: my mom and 2 sisters). Of course they were thrilled.

    The other 3 I asked individually (2 in person and one of them over the phone since I hadn't seen her in months). 

    We're supposed to have a bm's meeting tomorrow with the local BM's to discuss wedding plans (their dress and shoes).  
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  • pittpoint1119pittpoint1119 member
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    I had  a day out with each of my BMs and gave them a card " Will you be my bridesmaid" and a bottle of wine. We all love wine! For my fower girl and junior BMs I got them big cookies and the card as well!!! But make sure you ask individually
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  • dirocksdirocks
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    We just had a bbq this weekend to ask our wedding party! I made cards with 'Will you be my Bridesmaid?' on the front and a note inside telling each one how much they mean to me. We did the same with 'Dude, Will you be my Groomsman?' cards. Each card was presented with a mini bottle of their favorite liquor tied with a pretty silver ribbon. (Once they said yes of course!) I liked the idea of getting everyone together instead of asking individually because although most know each other, it was a great way to re-introduce everyone and get excited for the year ahead.
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