Hello Fellow Knotties,
My etiquette dilemma is sort of a childish one, so please forgive me. I recently got engaged and am getting married in October. A friend of mine also got engaged and is getting married in January. I received an invitation to her wedding about a week ago. At first, I couldn't understand why there was such a long gap between the ceremony and the reception, and then it hit me-she did not invite me to dinner.
While I understand that everyone has a budget, I think this is terribly tacky. I would rather NOT receive an invite at all. Instead, she wants me to show up with gifts, throw me out and expect me to find something to do across town for five hours, and then come back when everyone starts to leave.
I think I am so hurt because when she was pregnant two years ago, I went to great personal expense to throw her a small baby shower. I did it because I wanted to, and it was a surprise for her. We've never been terribly close, but she never thanked me for it.
To make matters worse, I had every intention of inviting her, her fiance and their child and feeding all three at my wedding. I feel hurt. What do I do?
Thanks,
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