Creative way to ask friends to be in wedding party

Re: Creative way to ask friends to be in wedding party

• aragx6 member

  

  June 2012

  If you're not a creative person, it will come across as disingenuous. Just ask each out individually and then ask them. It doesn't have to be a bi ol' thing honestly.

  

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• mbcdefg member

  

  June 2012

  Set a date first (which means book your ceremony/reception sites and put down deposits) before you worry about a bridal party. No sense in asking people to participate in an event if you don't know the definite date and location of that event.
  
  And if you're having a longer engagement, wait until about 10-12 months prior to the wedding before asking anyone to participate. People here have had problems with asking more than a year out, even with sisters and lifelong best friends.
  
  Don't ask in a group. Ask everyone individually so that they don't feel put on the spot and feel free to ask questions, voice their concerns or just flat-out decline.
  
  Leave the groomsmen asking totally up to your fiance.
  
  It's fine to call or visit and just ask. Grand gestures aren't mandatory. I just asked my sister, and I asked my other bridesmaid over some lunch. If you want to give a card, scrapbook, small gift, etc., go right ahead, but it's not really necessary. Think about their personalities ... some people love mushy gushy keepsake stuff, and others don't.

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  June 2012 edited June 2012

  I got engraved spoons (with their names and "Will you be my Bridesmaid" on them from Etsy. Then, I baked cupcakes into mason jars. Then, I ordered white tablecloths, ironed on their initials, and hand-crocheted around the edges. I made cards, and wrote them letters. Below is a picture one of them took the day she got it. 

  
  

  Was it complicated, unnecessary, and time-consuming? Yes. But I'm a crafty person. I love to bake. I love to crochet. So, I wanted to do it. If none of this interests you, just ask them. A heartfelt card or phone call is really all you need.
  

  
  

  
  
  

  
  

  ETA: And yes, if you are over the one-year mark, just wait it out. I asked on my one-year mark, and even that is considered a little soon for some. 

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• msuprincess04 member

  

  June 2012

  Giant dress shaped cookies. I think someone posted a link for them online a while back.
  
  Is it silly and unnecessary? Sure. But, hey, you can spend your budget where you want.

  "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"

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• MangoSong member

  

  June 2012

  My friend asked me (and the rest of her BMs) with a orginal poems she made up for each of us. They were written on stationary (she made) and she gave them out to us.
  
  Another friend asked by giving her BMs vintage cigar boxes with a bunch of stuff in them (tissues, little change purse and some other things she felt should go into the box) with a card, telling how she met them and asking them to be a BM.
  
  I think all the other times I've been asked it's been a phone call.
  
  Anyway you ask, the girls you ask will be honored.
  
  But if you really want to do something, what are your "crafty" strengeths?
  Baking? Get cookie cutter letters and spell it out.
  
  Or collect some old shoe boxes, cover them in wrapping paper and place some momentos of you and that lady in the box. A picture of you two or a postcard from when you guy went on a trip together.

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