Bar or no bar?

KatieKakes92 · April 2010

I come from a Christian family and 80% of my half of the guest list are people from church,but most of the people on my fiancés list are drinkers including his family. me and my fiance originally booked a community hall that doesn't allow alcohol, but now my fiance is concerned that the reception will be boring for his guest. the wedding is only 2 months away so most of the reception sites are booked. we found an opening at another hall that has a bar inside,but guest would have to pay for their own drinks. the hall is much larger and has a beautiful dance floor, but other than the dance floor and the extra space i don't really care for it. its a bingo hall so it will cost a lot more to decorate because there is a lot of stuff that will need to be covered. me and my fiance wont be drinking either way, but i do want our guest to have a good time. any advice?

T3hKay · April 2010

If 80% is non-drinkers I would cater to the majority but thats just me. People should be able to have a good tme without getting drunk IMO. Good Luck!

CA2MT4EveR · April 2010

Please please please use grammar and punctuation. That was really hard to read.

Are you thinking that no one from church will drink? If you are going to have a 'hey, if you want to drink you have to pay for it yourself" I think you are better off with the original place and people can drink afterwards. Maybe have your reception earlier in the day. Does the Bingo hall have coverings for their stuff? Most do because they are not always used for just Bingo.

trix1223 · April 2010

I'd hold to your original reception plan, but expect that your reception **may** be shorter than typical. It doesn't have to be, but it might.

If people want to drink, they can have an after-party where alcohol is available.

GL

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

If you've already booked a dry reception, just go with it. Accept that some people won't dance and will leave early, and maybe consider an after party.

Even if it wasn't a nightmare to move it, going to a cash bar is not a good idea.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

If you want to drink, go out to a bar after the reception.

IMO, it's not rude to have a dry wedding, but it IS rude to have a cash bar. Either host or don't host. If you don't host, don't ask your guests to pay for it.

jenn.daniel · April 2010

Stick with your original plan.

lyndausvi · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_bar-bar?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:f68c35ac-1364-4815-84ca-71ebf0e45a4cPost:b612a7fb-0290-4d57-a748-e058bec50ffb">Re: Bar or no bar?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bar or no bar? : Actually it says nothing of who drinks, just says 80% are from church. I know plenty of churchgoers who are drinkers.
Posted by CA2MT4EveR[/QUOTE]

That is true. My grandma went to church a few days a week, ready her bible and said her prayers twice a day. Yet she had <strong>a</strong> cocktail at 4 pm and 9 pm everyday (or whenever socializing)

Goldlie11 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_bar-bar?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:f68c35ac-1364-4815-84ca-71ebf0e45a4cPost:0a09f754-fa2b-444a-ae9f-725d714d438e">Bar or no bar?</a>:
[QUOTE]I come from a Christian family and 80% of my half of the guest list are people from church,but most of the people on my fiancés list are drinkers including his family. me and my fiance originally booked a community hall that doesn't allow alcohol, but now my fiance is concerned that the reception will be boring for his guest. the wedding is only 2 months away so most of the reception sites are booked. <strong>we found an opening at another hall that has a bar inside,but guest would have to pay for their own drinks. </strong>the hall is much larger and has a beautiful dance floor, but other than the dance floor and the extra space i don't really care for it. its a bingo hall so it will cost a lot more to decorate because there is a lot of stuff that will need to be covered. me and my fiance wont be drinking either way, but i do want our guest to have a good time. any advice?
Posted by KatieKakes92[/QUOTE]
Why?

gottahavashorti · April 2010

If the bar is in the same room as the reception, don't switch. You could always have an after party.

bsmith4225 · April 2010

Do what you feel comfortable doing. It's your day and his. LOL! There is nothing wrong with a dry bar. I have been to wedding with and without bars and had an equal amount of fun. If you guest have to drink to have fun, well that is an issue you they may have to deal with at an AA meeting. Do not feel pressured into appeasing everyone. Remember, people are going to find something to complain about, but that is NOT your problem. To be honest, do you really want to deal with that in-law who doesn't know when enough is enough?

Best of luck with your big day!

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