Program redo?

kayla800 · June 2012

So our wedding is in two weeks and yesterday my MOH dropped out of the wedding. It blindsided me and is upsetting, but also presents an extra problem. I have replaced her but we had already printed the programs with her as MOH and without the new BM. They are laminated fans and were pretty expensive. It is too late to get new ones. My mom said we should just make an announcement at the reception about the change, but I think we should cover up the old bridesmaids list with a new, printed one. It won't be laminated and will be taped or glued on. Suggestions? Opinions? Options? I don't want my new MOH and new BM to feel misrepresented.

mcskatcat · June 2012

Well, I don't think you should have replaced the MOH to start with. Had you not replaced her, you wouldn't need to change the program and if people ask just say she's there in spirit. Out of curiousity, why did she drop out?

aerinpegadrak · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_program-redo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:449cc7ff-ee8e-4e66-a775-2f67c210817aPost:6fc43cd2-de96-4db5-8c2c-194ed6ff99e8">Program redo?</a>:
[QUOTE]So our wedding is in two weeks and yesterday my MOH dropped out of the wedding. It blindsided me and is upsetting, but also presents an extra problem. I have replaced her but we had already printed the programs with her as MOH and without the new BM. They are laminated fans and were pretty expensive. It is too late to get new ones. My mom said we should just make an announcement at the reception about the change, but I think we should cover up the old bridesmaids list with a new, printed one. It won't be laminated and will be taped or glued on. Suggestions? Opinions? Options? I don't want my new MOH and new BM to feel misrepresented.
Posted by kayla800[/QUOTE]
Nothing says "You're my very best friend in the world and I love you dearly" like getting tapped two weeks out after someone else dropped. Klassy.<div>
</div><div>Just leave the programs alone. Anyone who cares about who's in the WP already knows, and anyone who doesn't know doesn't care. I don't think a single guest actually took any of our programs. The who, why, and how many of the WP is really something that guests barely notice and only really matters to the couple.</div>

HobokensFury · June 2012

Sorry but you shouldn't have replaced anyone at this point.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

Yeah you shouldn't have replaced your MOH. It's not just insulting to her, but to her replacement who obviously is second string since she was only asked after someone else bowed out.

I would either leave the programs as is or just scrap them. I know that sucks since you spent money doing them, but like aerin said, some people don't even take them. For this reason, I could also see just leaving them as is and if anyone really wants to know, they can ask.

kayla800 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_program-redo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:449cc7ff-ee8e-4e66-a775-2f67c210817aPost:df62333d-e85e-4fa2-a619-24f1f2a4679f">Re: Program redo?</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, I don't think you should have replaced the MOH to start with. Had you not replaced her, you wouldn't need to change the program and if people ask just say she's there in spirit. Out of curiousity, why did she drop out?
Posted by mcskatcat[/QUOTE]

Her ex is also in the wedding party. Even though they broke up over a year and a half ago, she suddenly decided she can't handle it.

If I hadn't replaced her we would have had a best mad with no MOH and only 3 girls, with 4 guys, which I didn't want.

mcskatcat · June 2012

Well, good to know your wedding is more important than your best friend's feelings. I have no good advice to give you, because I would be concerned about more than programs in your situation.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_program-redo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:449cc7ff-ee8e-4e66-a775-2f67c210817aPost:f6f05ee3-4a1a-4228-83a8-62d2e5cd07e8">Re: Program redo?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Program redo? : Her ex is also in the wedding party. Even though they broke up over a year and a half ago, she suddenly decided she can't handle it. <strong>If I hadn't replaced her we would have had a best mad with no MOH and only 3 girls, with 4 guys, which I didn't want.</strong>
Posted by kayla800[/QUOTE]

So even numbers is more important than friends' feelings? Ooooook then. Good to know. Make sure to tell her replacement you asked her to get even numbers.

aerinpegadrak · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Program redo? : Her ex is also in the wedding party. Even though they broke up over a year and a half ago, she suddenly decided she can't handle it. If I hadn't replaced her we would have had a best mad with no MOH and only 3 girls, with 4 guys, which I didn't want.
Posted by kayla800[/QUOTE]
Uneven numbers are becoming more and more the norm, because people are starting to realize that their friends' feelings are more important. A healthy couple aren't perfect mirrors of each other, why should their social circles be?<div>
</div><div>My MOH wasn't sure if she was going to be able to make it, and I told her that she was my MOH no matter what. The title meant that she was my closest friend, not just the warm body standing nearest me at the altar.</div><div>
</div><div>Sure, you're entitled to want even sides, but your friends are also entitled to think less of you, probably for a very long time, for treating them like props.</div>

gurrlballa10 · June 2012

WTF? You made someone a MOH and added a BM two weeks out? You've got more problems than programs, my dear.

willywally5 · June 2012

1) You should not have replaced her.

2) Please do not put stickers on your program. That is just way too tacky and screams,"Look! I had to add in a substitute MOH, who wasn't good enough to be in the WP to begin with." Use them as is (people aren't going to notice and if they do, either won't care or will ask) or toss them.

saric83 · June 2012

Ditto all PP's, but I would like to also suggest that you absolutely should NOT have an announcement at the reception. That is SO SO SO awkward, and 95% of your guests would never notice, but if you were to make an announcement like that, it would just draw everyone's attention and remind the back-up MOH and bridesmaid that they were only second-choice and never would have made the cut otherwise.

Knittibell · June 2012

Look, the ship has sailed, and what is done is done.

I'd leave the programs alone, as others said, anyone who would need to know will know, and people generally look at the programs while their bored, waiting for something to start or finish, and no one who doesn't already know will care. Just have them introduced and thank them in the toast with the correct names, and you'll be fine.

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