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I don't know what's scarier..

Quartknee88Quartknee88 member
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Having your FI deployed for months on end or having them home and hurt. I can now say that I'm going through both but those endless nights of constant worrying about their safety and what not, then having them home and in tons of pain and knowing all you can do is hold their hand and pray their pain away.
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  • meltoinemeltoine member
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    edited December 2011
    I know what you mean. It's not easy either way. All you can do is love him. 
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  • iluvmytxrgriluvmytxrgr member
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    I was in your position almost 2 years ago.  My H was in Afghanistan when he was shot in the shoulder.  The bullet came out his back.  His lung collapsed.  He lost so much blood that he nearly died.  That phone call was the most terrifying moment of my life. 
    I cleaned and and dressed his wounds for weeks.  Seeing him in so much pain was hard.  I had to help him with a lot of every day stuff.  He couldn't drive, dress or clean himself.  Through all of it, our relationship grew by leaps and bounds. 
    I know it is hard, but you can do this.  You are his biggest support.  He just needs to know that you are there, no matter what.  MH was scared that I would think less of him since he got hurt.  He was afraid that I would think he was weak.  He knows so much better now. 
    I'm sorry he is hurting.  I'm always around if you need someone to talk to.  There are a few other ladies here an on The Nest MN page who have been through it, too.  Please feel free to contact us.
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  • Quartknee88Quartknee88 member
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    Thank you ladies so much. Even though FI and I currently don't live together (its cheaper for me to live at school than live with him) I am constantly down there and I've been living on his roommate's couch getting up every four hours and even staying awake just watching him to make sure he is still breathing. I know I'm not over doing it but I just wish that I could take his pain away. Here I am being a sissy and getting all emotional but ugh. What hurts only makes you stronger right?
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  • Gismo123Gismo123
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_dont-whats-scarier?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:09da9854-0cc7-4b7f-9b70-8592e4b0a6ebPost:0709b68a-b61b-42dd-b188-160977890207">Re: I don't know what's scarier..</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thank you ladies so much. Even though FI and I currently don't live together (its cheaper for me to live at school than live with him) I am constantly down there and I've been living on his roommate's couch getting up every four hours and even staying awake just watching him to make sure he is still breathing. I know I'm not over doing it but I just wish that I could take his pain away. Here I am being a sissy and getting all emotional but ugh. <strong>What hurts only makes you stronger right?
    </strong>Posted by Quartknee88[/QUOTE]



    Yes it does!  You're relationship with him will not only grow but it will tie you 2 together even closer.  My biggest fear is my FH will get deployed to Afgan, they have been trying to recruit him for months now but have failed since he was the only Iintel. Specialist  in his office and had no replacement if he did go.  His shop has now merged with another shop and their are 2 IS's now so I'm sooooooo scared they are going to send him over!  Yes I'd miss him but I'm more scared he's going to get hurt! My prayers are with you both and I hope he heals quickly!
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