Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding?

[Deleted User] · June 2012

I am 46 years old getting married for the first time, but we cannot afford to invite on my friends (some of which I see maybe once a year). I know they are happy for me and I would like to have them at the party my mom is hosting, but is that just not right, or do you think if they are my friends they would understand. These are not people in their 20 or 30s but in their 40s 50s and 60s.

PetalPockets2012 · June 2012

Nope.

ChristineNB · June 2012

I don't see what the age of your guests matters. However, as the pp said if you invite people to the engagement party you should also invite them to the wedding.

ootmother2 · June 2012

Nope

Us old folks take offense even worse that the youngins

aragx6 · June 2012

Anyone invited to the engagement party, shower or bachelorette parties should be invited to the wedding.

Kate61487 · June 2012

ditto PPs. If you want to see your friends have a BBQ or a new years party or some other event that's not related to your wedding.

And I'd think if anything people in their 40s-60s would be more aware of how rude this is and would be more put off by it than a 20-something (I know I was pretty oblivious...)

mari0225 · June 2012

Nope

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I am 46 years old getting married for the first time, but we cannot afford to invite on my friends (some of which I see maybe once a year). I know they are happy for me and I would like to have them at the party my mom is hosting, but is that just not right, or do you think if they are my friends they would understand. These are not people in their 20 or 30s but in their 40s 50s and 60s.
Posted by robinjeannine[/QUOTE]

I did this. I invited those people to the engagement party, but not to the wedding.

But my reasoning was because it was going to be a destination wedding (3,000 miles away) and I wanted to make sure that some people were able to particpate in SOMETHING.

starrynight84 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : I did this. I invited those people to the engagement party, but not to the wedding. But my reasoning was because it was going to be a destination wedding (3,000 miles away) and I wanted to make sure that some people were able to particpate in SOMETHING.
Posted by iriscarmendiaz[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>It sounds like you've already had your wedding, so I know you can't change this, but that is still rude. You should have invited them to the wedding and then allowed them to make the choice to come or not. Then it would have been okay that you invited them to the engagement party. </div><div>
</div><div>OP: Friends are never too old to treat nicely. You can't invite them to the engagement party without also inviting them to the wedding. Why don't you have a party with your friends to spend time with them? Just don't make it related to your wedding. </div>

michellesean · June 2012

what pp said is the only way that would work without seeming rude. Obviously not everybody you know can go to a DW so if they go to the engagement party and dont get an invite to the wedding they probably wont be offended.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

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[QUOTE]what pp said is the only way that would work without seeming rude. Obviously not everybody you know can go to a DW <strong>so if they go to the engagement party and dont get an invite to the wedding they probably wont be offended. </strong>
Posted by michellesean[/QUOTE]

I would be. DW or not, everyone invited to pre-wedding parties gets an invitation to the wedding. Don't decide for your guests whether or not they can make the trip to a DW. Invite them and if they can't make it, that's a decision they should make for themselves.

goobersinlove · June 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>what pp said is the only way that would work without seeming rude. Obviously not everybody you know can go to a DW so if they go to the engagement party and dont get an invite to the wedding they probably wont be offended. </strong>
Posted by michellesean[/QUOTE]

Did you forget that this is an ETIQUETTE board where people come to get answers as to what the applicable proper etiquette is?

So tell me, how would you judge who wouldn't be able to go to a DW? Do you make presumptions about how much they make and other lifestyle factors -- then decide that, since you don't think the Smith's could afford a trip to Hawaii, you'll do them a favor and nix their invitation? Oh yeah, but you'd still like a gift from them at your engagement party, shower, whatever.

This is the message it sends. The purpose of pre-wedding parties is to honor and celebrate the upcoming marriage. These parties are most often gift-giving events. When you invite someone to a party wherein the invitee feels the need to give a gift (<em>not that gifts are mandatory, but most people don't go to these types of things empty-handed</em>), they then expect an invitation to the event for which they are giving you the damn gift and celebrating with you for (the wedding). But when you don't invite them to the wedding, you send the message that you wanted this person's gift and attention, but you don't think they were good enough to actually be at your wedding. And that's rude.

specialk84 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : I would be. DW or not, everyone invited to pre-wedding parties gets an invitation to the wedding. Don't decide for your guests whether or not they can make the trip to a DW. Invite them and if they can't make it, that's a decision they should make for themselves.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto.</div><div>
</div><div>As for the poster who said "at least they could be involved in something", I think you seriously overestimate the enthusiasm and interest other people have in your wedding. I would rather not be included in anything than be invited to a prewedding party and not the actual wedding.</div>

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : It sounds like you've already had your wedding, so I know you can't change this, but that is still rude. You should have invited them to the wedding and then allowed them to make the choice to come or not. Then it would have been okay that you invited them to the engagement party. OP: Friends are never too old to treat nicely. You can't invite them to the engagement party without also inviting them to the wedding. Why don't you have a party with your friends to spend time with them? Just don't make it related to your wedding.
Posted by starrynight84[/QUOTE]

No, my wedding is still about 7-8 weeks away (I can't remember anymore).

Maybe it was rude (and I can't change it now), but I know that most people wouldn't have come anyway. That's just the way the "people in my life" are. And I can't change people. And for the record, about 66% of my guests that I did invite aren't coming anyway.

Sometimes you just have to know who you're dealing with. I wouldn't have done that if I was having a wedding where more people would have made it (i.e. in town).

aurianna · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : No, my wedding is still about 7-8 weeks away (I can't remember anymore). Maybe it was rude (and I can't change it now), but I know that most people wouldn't have come anyway. That's just the way the "people in my life" are. And I can't change people. And for the record, about 66% of my guests that I did invite aren't coming anyway. Sometimes you just have to know who you're dealing with. I wouldn't have done that if I was having a wedding where more people would have made it (i.e. in town).
Posted by iriscarmendiaz[/QUOTE]

No maybes. It is rude.
The error here is assuming that people should feel honored for "at least being included in SOMETHING." Nope. Your wedding is only the most important thing in your life to you and your FI.
Are there some people that definitely wanted to be part of it and share it with you regardless if they got invites? Yes, I'm sure there were. Does that excuse being rude to them and the others you invited? to just the e-party? Maybe not.

8 weeks left isn't too late by most standards. If you put invites out in the mail right now you'd still be within your timeline. But they'd probably read it as being B-listed (and longer would be needed for the destination wedding) so I guess you've lucked out. But I would write notes to every single person you invited to your e-party and not wedding, both thanking them for celebrating with you and apologizing for your breech in etiquette for not inviting them. Do it at the same time you write your thank you notes for your wedding gifts and it won't take too long.

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : Did you forget that this is an ETIQUETTE board where people come to get answers as to what the applicable proper etiquette is? So tell me, how would you judge who wouldn't be able to go to a DW? Do you make presumptions about how much they make and other lifestyle factors -- then decide that, since you don't think the Smith's could afford a trip to Hawaii, you'll do them a favor and nix their invitation? Oh yeah, but you'd still like a gift from them at your engagement party, shower, whatever. This is the message it sends.<strong> The purpose of pre-wedding parties is to honor and celebrate the upcoming marriage. These parties are most often gift-giving events. When you invite someone to a party wherein the invitee feels the need to give a gift ( not that gifts are mandatory, but most people don't go to these types of things empty-handed ), they then expect an invitation to the event for which they are giving you the damn gift and celebrating with you for (the wedding).</strong> But when you don't invite them to the wedding, you send the message that you wanted this person's gift and attention, but you don't think they were good enough to actually be at your wedding. And that's rude.
Posted by goobersinlove[/QUOTE]

I still say you need to know who you're dealing with. Fact of the matter is, we didn't get a single present from any of our engagement party attendees (and we weren't expecting any either). I wasn't aware that engagement parties were gift giving events, and apparently neither did any of the 60 people we invited to the party (and paid for all their drinks).

Maybe I should have been extra selfish and invited them to the engagement party and expected gifts and then ask people to fly out and buy me even more gifts.

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : No maybes. It is rude. The error here is assuming that people should feel honored for "at least being included in SOMETHING." Nope. Your wedding is only the most important thing in your life to you and your FI. Are there some people that definitely wanted to be part of it and share it with you regardless if they got invites? Yes, I'm sure there were. Does that excuse being rude to them and the others you invited? to just the e-party? Maybe not. 8 weeks left isn't too late by most standards. If you put invites out in the mail right now you'd still be within your timeline. But they'd probably read it as being B-listed (and longer would be needed for the destination wedding) so I guess you've lucked out. But I would write notes to every single person you invited to your e-party and not wedding, both thanking them for celebrating with you and apologizing for your breech in etiquette for not inviting them. Do it at the same time you write your thank you notes for your wedding gifts and it won't take too long.
Posted by aurianna[/QUOTE]

Well I suppose I win the prize for worst bride ever.

Maybe all the other brides on here have great families and great friends who never let them down. Maybe I'm just overdramatic. Who knows.

According to you all, I made a major breach of ettiquette. And I won't be sending thank you notes to the engagement party people. And I'm not inviting those people to my intimate wedding either. And that's fine, I'll be the worst bride ever.

Maybe that's the reason I don't have any friends. *shrugs*

I'd always think that people would understand that you can't possibly invite every single person you've ever met to the wedding. And maybe I'm trying to be responsible for having a wedding I can pay for in full on my own earnings without an extra job. Not to just invite people to invite people. Not to invite people to get more gifts.

I thought I was being fair by letting people come celebrate with me before I moved 3,000 miles away. That paying for the parties and actually saying goodbye was fair.

But you know what? I'm willing to admit that I was wrong.

arrestclementine · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : I still say you need to know who you're dealing with. Fact of the matter is, we didn't get a single present from any of our engagement party attendees (and we weren't expecting any either). I wasn't aware that engagement parties were gift giving events, and apparently neither did any of the 60 people we invited to the party (and paid for all their drinks). <strong>Maybe I should have been extra selfish and invited them to the engagement party and expected gifts and then ask people to fly out and buy me even more gifts.</strong>
Posted by iriscarmendiaz[/QUOTE]

An invitation is just that, not a court order. Just because you've invited people doesn't mean you are demanding they come.

Simply Fated · June 2012

@iriscarmendiaz ... I'm so confused... why didn't you invite people to your DW? If you want to include your friends, include them. Don't half-ass it.

OP, The same goes for you. If your friends want to be included as badly as you think they do, include them. Don't half-ass it and include them half-way. If you can't afford to invite them, don't. But dont' invite them to half the festivities and not the rest.
When it comes to the engagement party vs the actual wedding, the engagement party is the booby prize. No one wants the booby prize.

aurianna · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : Maybe that's the reason I don't have any friends. *shrugs* I'd always think that people would understand that you can't possibly invite every single person you've ever met to the wedding. And maybe I'm trying to be responsible for having a wedding I can pay for in full on my own earnings without an extra job. Not to just invite people to invite people. Not to invite people to get more gifts. I thought I was being fair by letting people come celebrate with me before I moved 3,000 miles away. That paying for the parties and actually saying goodbye was fair. But you know what? I'm willing to admit that I was wrong.
Posted by iriscarmendiaz[/QUOTE]

Well, on the bright side, if you don't have any friends then there couldn't have been that many people you wrongly invited to your engagment party.

You are not the worst bride ever (though your post reeking of sarcasm and fake contrition doesn't help much). Destination Wedding etiquette in general seems trickier than some.
But you could have been perfectly responsible and had a wedding you could afford, without inviting people to a pre-wedding event and not the wedding. People would have understood that they couldn't be invited to the wedding... and they would have also understood that they couldn't be invited to pre-wedding, potentially gift-giving, parties too.

If you wanted to pay for a party (and on that note, are you saying you threw your own engagement party?) with a bunch of people, you could throw a goodbye BBQ.

If you're actually willing to admit that you're wrong (which you clearly aren't as you still tried to defend your point another half dozen times) then I see no reason at all why you would not want to apologize for the etiquette breach.

But I'll get off my really high soap box. I'm quite certain I didn't follow every etiquette rule with my own wedding either. So sorry for being a harpy. Long day.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : Well I suppose I win the prize for worst bride ever. Maybe all the other brides on here have great families and great friends who never let them down. Maybe I'm just overdramatic. Who knows. According to you all, I made a major breach of ettiquette. And I won't be sending thank you notes to the engagement party people. And I'm not inviting those people to my intimate wedding either. And that's fine, I'll be the worst bride ever. Maybe that's the reason I don't have any friends. *shrugs* I'd always think that people would understand that you can't possibly invite every single person you've ever met to the wedding. <strong>And maybe I'm trying to be responsible for having a wedding I can pay for in full on my own earnings without an extra job. </strong>Not to just invite people to invite people. Not to invite people to get more gifts. I thought I was being fair by letting people come celebrate with me before I moved 3,000 miles away. That paying for the parties and actually saying goodbye was fair. But you know what? I'm willing to admit that I was wrong.
Posted by iriscarmendiaz[/QUOTE]

You're being melodramatic.

And there are plenty of people who are responsible and plan the weddings they can afford. That doesn't mean you get license to be rude though. You could have still planned an intimate wedding--that just means the engagement party is intimate too. You still didn't have to invite people just to invite people. That argument doesn't make sense given the context. Don't invite them to the wedding, but then don't invite them to the e-party either.

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : An invitation is just that, not a court order. Just because you've invited people doesn't mean you are demanding they come.
Posted by amber0389[/QUOTE]

The people I know actually think its a demand to come. I don't get it.

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding? : Well, on the bright side, if you don't have any friends then there couldn't have been that many people you wrongly invited to your engagment party. You are not the worst bride ever (though your post reeking of sarcasm and fake contrition doesn't help much). Destination Wedding etiquette in general seems trickier than some. But you could have been perfectly responsible and had a wedding you could afford, without inviting people to a pre-wedding event and not the wedding. People would have understood that they couldn't be invited to the wedding... and they would have also understood that they couldn't be invited to pre-wedding, potentially gift-giving, parties too. If you wanted to pay for a party (and on that note, are you saying you threw your own engagement party?) with a bunch of people, you could throw a goodbye BBQ. If you're actually willing to admit that you're wrong (which you clearly aren't as you still tried to defend your point another half dozen times) then I see no reason at all why you would not want to apologize for the etiquette breach. But I'll get off my really high soap box. I'm quite certain I didn't follow every etiquette rule with my own wedding either. So sorry for being a harpy. Long day.
Posted by aurianna[/QUOTE]

My response was melodramatic yes. It was a little sarcastic, yes. I did try to defend myself half-heartedly yes.

What is boils down to, is that I tired to include people from the very beginning and I've got a lot of negative and mixed responses from them through the entire time. I tried to be gracious and open, and unfortunately, the perception of the people who I thought were important has changed over the course of several months.

I wanted a wedding. I now know that I should have listened to my fiance and just eloped and skipped all the trouble. By the time I realized that (and with all the drama in between that I left out) lots of money had been spent that I couldn't get back. I downsized my wedding a lot, lost a lot of money in the process, and made a lot of other sacrifices that most people don't know about.

I'm just frustrated, and I am the point of "why did I bother?" and "screw everyone".

That's not how I felt at the beginning.

I now know that ettiquette-wise, I did a bad thing. I'm just so frustrated, I'm choosing not to care about fixing a bad situation.

aurianna · June 2012

*shrug* Your real friends and loved ones will still support you regardless of a little faux-pas.
Sorry things aren't going well. You'll be married soon though.

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

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[QUOTE]*shrug* Your real friends and loved ones will still support you regardless of a little faux-pas. Sorry things aren't going well. You'll be married soon though. :)
Posted by aurianna[/QUOTE]

Yep. by the time the wedding comes around, I would have cried a river, built a bridge and gotten over it.

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Can you invite someone to an engagement type party and not to the wedding?: That's all well and good, but this is an etiquette site. We give advice according to etiquette, not our own personal situations and mistakes. If your wedding is making you miserable, that's a pretty good sign you shouldn't advise others to do what you are doing.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

I was commenting on the posters situation.

Turns out I got some advice too.

Isn't that the point? Advice was needed and it was given.

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