Help: I have party-loving friends

Re: Help: I have party-loving friends

• temurlang member

  

  February 2011 edited December 2011

  This is most likely NOT going to be a problem.
  
  A lot of my friends are the type to get thrown out of clubs for passing out or fighting, but they wouldn't think to do that at a wedding.  It's a totally different occasion and atmosphere and most people seem to know what's acceptable.  In fact, the only drunk guy we had was DH's conservative friend (middle-aged, father of two, from India), who went a little crazy when he saw free alcohol!  I think Americans are usually more careful of their behavior when they get invited to a "non-American" event because they don't want to offend and aren't sure about the rules.
  
  That said, some precautions you might consider:
  
  -  ask the bartenders ahead of time to not serve people past a certain point of inebriation.  If there's a particular person you're worried about, let them know.  (My family does this with alcoholics).
  
  -  put someone in charge of the dance floor.  If the bumping and grinding gets out of hand they can ask the DJ to change the music to something bouncier or even cut in.  A careful playlist might eliminate a lot of that problem.
  
  -  if you have a friend who's really out of control, you could let someone know to keep an eye on him/her.
  

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• DFWIndian

  

  February 2011 edited December 2011

  Temurlang gave great suggestions. Talking to the people especially vendors around you will help. We've limited our "grinding" music and did more Indian music or slow dance. Then have someone be an "unoffical" bouncer to just kind of watch your friends. Spread the word your family is conservative.

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• raangoli

  

  February 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_party-loving-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:430Discussion:a73ebb59-2db3-432c-9032-56521d769090Post:9ce7485c-2878-4b0a-8089-8f740e2a5cdb">Re: Help: I have party-loving friends</a>:
  [QUOTE]This is most likely NOT going to be a problem. A lot of my friends are the type to get thrown out of clubs for passing out or fighting, but they wouldn't think to do that at a wedding.  It's a totally different occasion and atmosphere and most people seem to know what's acceptable.  In fact, the only drunk guy we had was DH's conservative friend (middle-aged, father of two, from India), who went a little crazy when he saw free alcohol! <strong> I think Americans are usually more careful of their behavior when they get invited to a "non-American" event because they don't want to offend and aren't sure about the rules. </strong>That said, some precautions you might consider: -  ask the bartenders ahead of time to not serve people past a certain point of inebriation.  If there's a particular person you're worried about, let them know.  (My family does this with alcoholics). -  put someone in charge of the dance floor.  If the bumping and grinding gets out of hand they can ask the DJ to change the music to something bouncier or even cut in.  A careful playlist might eliminate a lot of that problem. -  if you have a friend who's really out of control, you could let someone know to keep an eye on him/her.
  Posted by temurlang[/QUOTE]
  
  I totally agree with the bolded statement. You will be surprised at how people will ask you even the most mundane questions because they are afraid to offend.
  
  And like Tem said, if you're really worried about a particular set of friends or just a particular person, ask a trusted friend or family member to keep their eye on them.

  

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