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Not included in sister's wedding party

Erin PylesErin Pyles member
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My sister is only having a maid of honor for her wedding--our other sister. However, she has asked me, along with her girlfriends she would've had in the bridal party, to plan the bachelorette party and bridal shower for her. Is it just me, or is that kind of a crummy deal?
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  • Meegles4Meegles4 member
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    She wasn't supposed to ask anyone to plan her shower and b-party. So that was rude.

    She can have whomever she likes in the WP, so if she just wants her step-sister, that's fine.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-included-in-sister-in-laws-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b83df41e-cbae-4996-aa8b-7bba4d1e069dPost:b39d8d7d-37c0-4c29-b1c3-9c753fc205fc">Not included in sister-in-law's wedding party</a>:
    [QUOTE]My sister-in-law is only having a maid of honor for her wedding--her step-sister. However, she has asked me (her brother's wife), along with her girlfriends she would've had in the bridal party, to plan the bachelorette party and bridal shower for her. Is it just me, or is that kind of a crummy deal?
    Posted by 8373067161850765[/QUOTE]

    Extremely bad taste. Tacky, tacky, tacky.

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  • ghowlettghowlett
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    She shouldn't be asking anyone to plan anything for her.  If one of you had offered, great - but if not, she doesn't have a shower or b-party.
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  • ginadogginadog member
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    Yeah that is bad - she doesn't get to ask anyone to plan stuff FOR her!  If you've offered that is different, but going and rounding up people to do stuff for you is not good!

    Did you answer her yet?  What did you or will you say?
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    edited August 2012

    While she's not required to include you in the wedding, she was EXTREMELY rude by asking you to plan a B-party and shower. I would decline.

    My SIL tried to get me to plan the buck and doe for her and my brother. I was livid and declined. They didn't have one.

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  • TaraKeeleyTaraKeeley
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    That sucks- sorry :( It's questinable and probably hurtful that she chose only one sister and not you, and even worse that she asked you to plan her parties without including you as a bridesmaid. She shouldn't be asking for parties, much less from people who aren't BMs.
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  • TaraMc728TaraMc728
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    That is rude of her.  If you offered, that is fine, but for her to ask you to throw a shower is very tacky.
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  • Sjmiller418Sjmiller418
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    Its rude of her to ask for you to throw either party.

    But why did you change your post? No longer says step or that your SIL
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  • gurrlballa10gurrlballa10
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    mrsk, E is always slow now, because most of the regs got sick of TK BS, and left.
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  • Erin PylesErin Pyles member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-included-in-sister-in-laws-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b83df41e-cbae-4996-aa8b-7bba4d1e069dPost:6a956280-302f-4f91-8a60-950001793a3e">Re: Not included in sister's wedding party</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not included in sister's wedding party : I'm guessing it's probably MUD... also, why is E so slow today?   
    Posted by mrskaiser22[/QUOTE]

    I'm assuming MUD is "made-up drama," which it's not. Thanks for the accusation though.
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  • Erin PylesErin Pyles member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-included-in-sister-in-laws-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b83df41e-cbae-4996-aa8b-7bba4d1e069dPost:58fc401a-3c2b-4cc7-a948-87b939b0d3c0">Re: Not included in sister's wedding party</a>:
    [QUOTE]Its rude of her to ask for you to throw either party. But why did you change your post? No longer says step or that your SIL
    Posted by Sjmiller418[/QUOTE]

    Trying to be more cryptic here.
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  • Sjmiller418Sjmiller418
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-included-in-sister-in-laws-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b83df41e-cbae-4996-aa8b-7bba4d1e069dPost:d995817e-eb45-4752-bf98-cfb10151c3b8">Re: Not included in sister's wedding party</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not included in sister's wedding party : Trying to be more cryptic here.
    Posted by 8373067161850765[/QUOTE]

    cryptic? I get your hiding any identiy by the numbered username but the changing of post details isnt going to change people's answers. Either way its rude to ask you to plan but even if you were blood sisters(as your post now is seeming to imply) she doesn't have to have to you in the wedding party. It's her choice of who she is closest too and who she wants standing for her.
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