awkward with the ex wife--welfare, drugs, kids

bohemia1012 · September 2010

deleted by author, thread getting nowhere with question

mysticl · September 2010

Who has custody? I'd say your husband could make a case for sole custody if he can prove the fraud and drug use.

brilibby4 · September 2010

First of all, the Jehovah Witnesses part is none of your business. She is allowed to practice whatever religion she likes, and it is rude to judge her on this, IMO.

However, the rest of this bothers me because of the children involved. I would talk to Child Services. I would also try to get custody if I were your husband because a drug addict should not be raising a child.

bohemia1012 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_awkward-ex-wife-welfare-drugs-kids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d2be6976-2b5e-4758-8e60-79016cfd6774Post:8eb01a2a-344c-42b7-af37-bdccafc529fd">Re: awkward with the ex wife--welfare, drugs, kids</a>:
[QUOTE]First of all, the Jehovah Witnesses part is none of your business. She is allowed to practice whatever religion she likes, and it is rude to judge her on this, IMO. However, the rest of this bothers me because of the children involved. I would talk to Child Services. I would also try to get custody if I were your husband because a drug addict should not be raising a child.
Posted by brilibby4[/QUOTE]

She makes it our business by taking the kids to it (they don't want to go) and telling them that anyone <em>not</em> a Jehovah's Witness is going to hell. That includes me and their father. This is also her latest religion du jour, the last two were catholicism and wiccanism. i see meandering from one religion to the next in a typical addicts misguided search for an external fix to an inside problem while dragging your kids along for the ride to be more than bad manners ..yet you have sussed me out as rude, not her.
Did you even see the rest of my post?

jelique7 · September 2010

I agree with PP, you need to stay out of the religion thing. She IS their mother and can teach them what she chooses to. Pretty much my entire family are JW except my mom and dad who were excommunicated. I do not agree with the religion but it is their choice. A lot of people in that religion are "set in their ways", some call it brainwashed or whatever. I am in no way saying what she is doing is right but it is her choice to teach them this. You should do some research on the religion to try and better understand it before you attack her.

On the other hand, she sounds like a horrible mother and you should contact someone to try and get the children removed from that toxic situation. If you have proof of the drug thing they you and your H should do everything in your power to remove the children.

Sorry you are in your situation.

bohemia1012 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_awkward-ex-wife-welfare-drugs-kids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d2be6976-2b5e-4758-8e60-79016cfd6774Post:82427856-b112-48e8-9287-05cf5924af58">Re: awkward with the ex wife--welfare, drugs, kids</a>:
[QUOTE]Who has custody? I'd say your husband could make a case for sole custody if he can prove the fraud and drug use.
Posted by mysticl[/QUOTE
we've just been sorting through the money and work schedules to see what we can do and when we can do it. I've worked as a noncustodial visit supervisor before, and it's never a slam dunk, not even with cases way better than ours, unfortunately.

bohemia1012 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_awkward-ex-wife-welfare-drugs-kids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:d2be6976-2b5e-4758-8e60-79016cfd6774Post:aae3d5f0-552b-4901-82da-86512ba67b6e">Re: awkward with the ex wife--welfare, drugs, kids</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree with PP, you need to stay out of the religion thing. She IS their mother and can teach them what she chooses to. Pretty much my entire family are JW except my mom and dad who were excommunicated. I do not agree with the religion but it is their choice. A lot of people in that religion are "set in their ways", some call it brainwashed or whatever. I am in no way saying what she is doing is right but it is her choice to teach them this.
uh, what? it's not right but it's her choice? What?

You should do some research on the religion to try and better understand it before you attack her. Posted by jelique7[/QUOTE]
please reread the bit where she's telling them anyone not a JW is going to hell... Maybe to you that's all right, but not to us, as we are among her idea of the hellbound. No, she cannot teach them whatever she chooses, whether it's JW, wicca, catholicism, etc. not when she says it teaches that. She can believe whatever she likes, but that particular bit of BS needs to be kept to herself.

brilibby4 · September 2010

I'm sorry but her religion really should not be the issue here. Everything else in your post is way more important than her religious beliefs. And yes-believing people go to hell is a religious belief. I understand why it upsets you but her drug habits and getting this girl out of that house because of drugs, not religion, should be your #1 priority right now.

bbyckes · September 2010

No one quoted the original post?

brilibby4 · September 2010

Darn, I didn't. OP's husband has an ex wife who does drugs and lies a lot. She has a step daughter involved who is being deeply impacted by this. Ex wife has recently become a Jehovah's Witness and is teaching her children her religious beliefs including all people who don't think like them will go to hell. OP seemed upset when we told her to focus on getting the child out of the drug situation rather than on ex wife's religious beliefs.

Mrs.B6302007 · September 2010

OP- there are very few people on late at night. Had you left it up longer, you would have been given more responses and perspectives. But, since you deleted it no one can help now.

bbyckes · September 2010

Thanks for the recap, I gathered as much. I just take it she wasn't getting the responses she was looking for (obviously). I can't help but think that she was beyond exaggerating, but alas, we'll never know.

jenellsrevenge · September 2010

I can see your problem with the religion aspect of this, but you should really be focusing on getting her out of there since the mother is an addict. That being said, getting a child taken away from her mother is an extremely hard thing to do. Around here you pretty much have to give them concrete evidence that the parent is a drug user before they will even make the parent take a drug test. Crappy, I know, but its the reality. I had a friend go through this and the only reason why he got sole custody was because the mother didn't show up for her final court date. Maybe if you pursue it, you will lucky and this will happen as well.

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