Bridal Party... friends or family?

Re: Bridal Party... friends or family?

• GoodLuckBear14 member

  

  June 2012

  You ask the people who mean the most to you.  Period.  You also aren't getting married until mid July next year so you have until at least Thanksgiving to make any choices.  And please do not ask anyone before then no matter how 100% you are about them.

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• zitiqueen member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridal-party-friends-or-family?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:fa032a41-0740-4e4b-9cc2-7533a57c4c50Post:eb6aa01f-3ed3-46ac-94ac-f709ae2e2378">Bridal Party... friends or family?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hi everyone! I'm newly engaged and my fiance and I are trying to decide on our wedding party. We each have three people we know we want 100%. For my fiance, it is 3 of his best friends. For me, it is my sister and 2 best friends. I also have three other friends that I would like to ask, but am hesitant to do so yet... If my fiance had to choose 3 other people as well, he would choose his 3 brother-in-laws, all of whom he is very close with. However, if he chose them, I would feel obligated to ask his 3 sisters to be bridesmaids rather than choosing my 3 friends. And then... if I were to choose his 3 sisters, it would seem necessary to have my two brothers in the wedding also.  Family obligations make things so confusing! And we are both one of four kids. If his brother-in-laws are in the wedding, is it rude not to ask his sisters? I love them all, but also don't want to sacrifice my friends! I guess we could just turn it into a GIANT wedding party!!! Any opinions on how to choose?
  Posted by na06003[/QUOTE]
  
  If he wants his sisters to stand up, they can stand up on his side. If you want your brothers, they can stand up on your side.
  
  You do know that the numbers don't have to be even, right?
  
  I say ask the people you really want to be in your wedding. IMO, bridal parties should be your nearest and dearest, not obligations.

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  June 2012

  1) Do not ask anyone until you are about 7-9 months out from your wedding date.
  
  2) Sides do not have to be even.  So if you want to ask 6 girls but your FI only wants to ask 3 guys then that is perfectly fine.
  
  3) The determining factor when it comes to who to ask to be in your wedding party is who are your nearest and dearest.  Do not ask family because you feel like you are obligated.  If he wants his sisters in the wedding then he can certainly ask them to stand on his side.  Same goes for you and your brothers.  Co-ed sides are perfectly fine.
  
  Just remember that you pick your side and he picks his.  Neither of you should be asking the other to involve certain people...if you want a certain person in the wedding then ask that person to stand on your side whether it be a man or woman.

  
  

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• aerinpegadrak member

  

  June 2012

  Think of the people you can't possibly imagine taking this step without, the people you'd call very first if you had an emergency, good news to share, or a body to hide.  That's your WP.  Numbers and gender don't matter.  Your FI makes the same consideration. 
  
  Ditto the others that you have tons of time before making this decision.  There's nothing for them to do until it's time to start looking for attire, and so no reason to ask them any sooner.

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