Let me get the usual bits out of the way:
1. Yes, I know the B&G have every right to exclude children
2. No, I don't blame them for having the wedding they want
3. I wouldn't dare nag or confront them about anything - no way.
I just want to vent a little about a wedding coming up that's bringing me down a little.
Me, DH, and my 3 yo daughter are flying to his hometown for a wedding in June. I am in the bridal party. Plane tickets are $400 a piece, so $1200 total. We are bringing daughter because his family lives in town and wants to see her, of course.
The bride never said anything about "no children" to me, and I think a heads up would have been polite, especially for someone who is traveling so far. I had assumed she was not invited and already made arrangements with family, but I am hurt that the bride didn't come out and be honest with me. I got the invite yesterday with just me and DH's names. Everything I've read says not to ask, don't put the couple in an awkward spot, so I didn't. Bride has been in constant contact about demands from us for her bachelorette, shower, rehearsal, etc but couldn't manage to give me a courtesy "hey, we're not having kids at the wedding, just to let you know"? We're all flying cross country to be there, I spent $$$ on a dress, and I feel like a placeholder. She wants me there, but not my family.
I'm just disappointed. Like I said in 1,2&3, it's their choice who they want there. I fully acknowledge that. Just kind of bummed that she didn't think to tell me sooner.