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MedStudent13MedStudent13 member
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Hello everybody! I haveing a medium-sized wedding of about 120 people, and I really would like to invite my coworkers but I really need to keep the guest list down as I have HUGE family. Would it be bad ettiquette to invite them but not their spouses since they all know each other and are very close?
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  • whitsywhitsy
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    Yes. Etiquette dictates guests with a significant other should be invited with their SO.
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  • mbodymbody
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    You need to invite each coworker with their significant other. Do not split them up.
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  • PipesqueakPipesqueak
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    I'm just avoiding co-workers altogether. But then again, they all suck. If you're going to invite them then yes, please invite their spouse as well.
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    I'm only inviting the ones I've worked with the longest and/or hung out with after work.  But yes, their spouses are absolutely invited.  (Although I think most of them are choosing not to go, since they're guys and not into the weddings of people they don't know.)
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  • NOLAbridealmostNOLAbridealmost member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_work-friends-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:08d5e26f-d957-48bf-84eb-d188f574897dPost:e3d2e9a6-6195-4954-b46e-590292789f8c">Re: Work friends</a>:
    [QUOTE]I invited co-workers as well, and these are co-workers that I've known SO long and have been through a lot with.  Some of them have husbands, some are divorced, some just don't know what they want.  We all know each other, BUT I told them up front we (initially) invited 150 (now we're at 200) so there wouldn't be any room for their +1.  They all understood and had NO issues.  We're gonna sit them at the same table during reception.
    Posted by Nshivers[/QUOTE]

    <div>Please don't give advice on an etiquette board that goes against etiquette.   It's never appropriate to invite someone to a wedding without their significant other.  </div><div>
    </div><div>OP, just invite the coworkers you are closest to and include their significant others.  If you can't afford/don't have space for the SO then just don't invite the coworkers at all. </div><div>
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  • whitsywhitsy
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_work-friends-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:08d5e26f-d957-48bf-84eb-d188f574897dPost:e3d2e9a6-6195-4954-b46e-590292789f8c">Re: Work friends</a>:
    [QUOTE]I invited co-workers as well, and these are co-workers that I've known SO long and have been through a lot with.  Some of them have husbands, some are divorced, some just don't know what they want.  We all know each other, BUT I told them up front we (initially) invited 150 (now we're at 200) so there wouldn't be any room for their +1.  They all understood and <strong>had NO issues.</strong>  We're gonna sit them at the same table during reception.
    Posted by Nshivers[/QUOTE]

    <div>To your face at least.</div><div>
    </div><div>Don't post here if you're going to give incorrect advice.</div>
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  • LaBellaVita23LaBellaVita23 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_work-friends-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:08d5e26f-d957-48bf-84eb-d188f574897dPost:b6faba3d-d02d-4b63-a375-677e496905e2">Re: Work friends</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Work friends : <strong>To your face at least</strong>. Don't post here if you're going to give incorrect advice.
    Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]
    This.  I can guarantee they were talking about it behind your back.  I was once BM in a wedding where the bride did this and it pissed everyone off.  As I was also one of her coworkers, I overheard them talking a lot of crap about the bride.
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  • allisonkbyeallisonkbye member
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    Just invite the co-workers you hang out with outside of work. If it's still too many, don't invite them at all. 
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  • ourwedding111111ourwedding111111
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    We invited EVERYONE with a plus 1...even if they weren't attached or married.  I personally would never want to be told that I couldn't take my husband with me.  We were so surprised when all of the single people we invited responded with just themselves and no plus 1.   But without question, anyone who was married or dating...the couple were both invited and addressed on the invitation.  And anyone that was single for a Ms./Mr. XXX and Guest.  
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_work-friends-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:08d5e26f-d957-48bf-84eb-d188f574897dPost:7321a18d-513c-4e72-97a6-1c44dc13d05f">Re: Work friends</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm just avoiding co-workers altogether. But then again, they all suck. If you're going to invite them then yes, please invite their spouse as well.
    Posted by Pipesqueak[/QUOTE]




    Amen to this!

    Invite only the co-workers you are closest to our socialize with outside of work, plus their SO/spouses.
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