Has anyone been in a situation with a friend that was dating a jackass of a guy - where they fight horribly and sometimes it gets physical - and they are always on and off?
This friend of mine finally ended it with her BF a while ago - I thought it was for good.
Then, all of a sudden, I get the message "I'm engaged!"
We talk often, and the convos go from "He is so much better now that he is on his meds. We are in love!" to "It was such a horrible fight, the things he said to me, I can't stand the insults and the yelling, he keeps going off his meds". (yep, on and off meds - not a good combo)
I tell her flat out how I feel - these things aren't right and she needs to figure out what she wants before she marries this guy. Then I hear "we had a talk - we worked it out"
Don't get me wrong, FI and I had issues to work out ourselves - but we did work them out - and are currently working out new snags in our relationship. But never were there horrible screaming matches with physical contact between us every single time.
So is this just the way my friend and her FI handle things? I know some people just fight a lot and that's how they work stuff out. Should I just be there for her when she's nuts after a fight and then be happy once they have their "talks" and things are good again? I feel helpless - I'm afraid he's going to hurt her one day.
