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Bridesmaids

smmessingersmmessinger member
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So I have a question for everyone, I have a bridesmaid who pretty much told me she was going to be in my wedding without me asking but that isn't the worst part): She keeps telling me her daughter is going to be my flower girl even after I told her I wasn't having a flower girl or ring barrer. Then she got mad because I told her that if I had kids they would be nephews and cousins and she told me her daughter would be in it before any other kid and to top it off she keeps saying just tell her the colors and she will get her dress from Belk cause she doesn't have any money but my wedding is over a year away and dresses I am looking at are less than a $100. I told her it isn't fair for everyone else to get the same dress and pay the same price and her not. I am trying not to lose a friend or be mean does anyone have advice?
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  • crash2729crash2729 member
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    If you don't want her in the wedding then don't have her in the wedding. 

    Stand your ground.
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  • Olexa1979Olexa1979 member
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    Its YOUR day, you only get this opportunity, ONCE!! 

    Have what you want!!  :)  Stay Firm, but be kind, it that makes sense
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  • cwaggoner07cwaggoner07 member
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    You will regret it so bad if you let her walk over you with this stuff. If you tell her once, and tell her firm, she shouldn't bother you again.
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  • smmessingersmmessinger member
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    In all honesty I have told her twice. I ended up telling her the last time that this is my wedding and I have to pay for it. I told her when she got married she could do what she wanted. I appreciate the advice I guess in the end it's probably going to be best if I ask her to be a guest instead.
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  • smmessingersmmessinger member
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    I do already have my wedding party but the rest are very close family and my two best friends since I was 7. I already have most of my wedding done including my dress everything seems to be going perfecf it's just her that is causing a problem.
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  • Rachel405Rachel405 member
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    How close of friends with her are you? Is she someone you've known your whole life or a newer friend that just informed you she would be in your bridal party?

    I would just sit down and have a heart to heart, especially if your relationship means a lot to you. If she's not especially close, I would be a bit more firm and let her know you'll be making the decisions, thank you very much.

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  • smmessingersmmessinger member
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    She is a newer friend who informed me she was going to be in my wedding...When I first got engaged  she said just tell me how you want me to wear my hair and I will get my friend to do it and I didn't have the heart to say you aren't going to be in my wedding. I am hoping that we will drift apart by then but if not I am going to have to be more stern when I talk to her...that if my sister isn't first(she is my wedding planner and maid of honor and she doesn't like her)
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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bridesmaids-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:e4296fbc-af0f-487e-9df2-96ba79f45af5Post:715bf06e-b5bd-4032-842f-7805ae16df37">Re: Bridesmaids</a>:
    [QUOTE]She is a newer friend who informed me she was going to be in my wedding...When I first got engaged  she said just tell me how you want me to wear my hair and I will get my friend to do it and<strong> I didn't have the heart to say you aren't going to be in my wedding.</strong> I am hoping that we will drift apart by then but if not I am going to have to be more stern when I talk to her...that if my sister isn't first(she is my wedding planner and maid of honor and she doesn't like her)
    Posted by smmessinger[/QUOTE]

    You may be stuck with her then. Why are you friends with her at all? Did she demand it of you?
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  • smmessingersmmessinger member
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    No, she was nice until I started planning my wedding..and then about a month ago she began to act like my wedding was all about her.
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