I get a call around 5pm today, it's my FMIL and she's telling me about this cute FG dress she saw in this little bridal store at the mall. I tell her I have to go home do some laundry and clean up a bit and then I'll go over and we can see the dress. So I go to school to pick up a paper (which wasn't far at all from where I was at when she called), go home, eat dinner, put a load to wash and check my messages. I head out and arrive at 7:20. We head to the mall with FI and she starts looking for the dress and shows me a lot of VERY cute ones before finally we get to the one she was talking about and it is hideous! Not the right blue at all and with a flower pattern. And yet she says it was too simple. I appreciate that she helps (because my mother sure isn't) but we have such different taste. I feel bad saying NO to basically everything she's pointed out. I try to explain to her what I want but she doesn't get it. When she gets an idea or thought stuck in her head there is no getting her out of it. I tell her that the BM's are wearing royal blue, I've told her thousands of times and the FG she thinks will be nice is a green and turqouise. I even shown her pictures of the BM dresses (which that was another drama with her). We see a dress in the perfect blue and super cute for the FG and we decide to get it (honestly I didn't put much thought to a dress because kids look cute in anything).
I'm about to pay when she asks if I want to look at veils. I tell her no because I haven't put much thought to it and I honestly have NO idea what I want. But she insists and tells me how will I ever know if I don't look. So I look. But again, she falls in love with one and pushes it, and I didn't like. I like simple things with a subtle of elegant. She just likes big dramatic things and when she tries to go simple, it's just TOO plain. So I am asking the lady to show me this and that and FMIL starts making gestures and comments like I'm contradicting myself and I dk what I want. HELLO!!! I said that at the beggining, that's why I didn't want to look. Another thing is she hasn't seen the dress so she won't know what will clash. I pick a dress at the store that has the beading and lace like mine and she starts freaking out because it's a champagne color. When I've told her thousands of times its off white. I tell her NO, I am just looking for the same pattern so you see that I don't want anything to clash with the dress. We get to the counter and she STILL asking me if it's that color!!!! NOOOOO!!!! I try on a veil and I HATE IT!!!! I take it off and want to be done with it, she still asking me too look at some more as if I have to pick one now. I was so mad and FI wasn't helping by adding stupid little comments on the side, he was just kidding and didn't know I was mad.
Then we get in car and he starts talking about how I should have been at his house at 6pm like he had told me earlier. And she starts talking about how I have to improve my time management. I get even more mad because I never agreed to 6pm! I called him after his mom called (5:30pm) and told him what I was doing and that I needed to pick up papers at school (which he's known for 2 weeks) and go home do laundary and obviously change out of work clothes. And she knew too!!! I spoke with her! Honestly this has always been an issue with me and them. I have a lot going on all the time and they don't get it. I know I have time management issues but I went home and did what I needed to do as quickly as possible. I work this entire weekend (a double on Sunday) and I need to finish my laundary. And then they think my drives are about 5 minutes away from my house! Her job is literally 5 minutes away and his is too, WALKING! I don't have that luxury, everywher I drive is a good 20-30 minutes!!!!!!!!! WTH do you want me to do!!!!!!! So now I think she's mad at me by the way I acted or came across perhaps, because she barely looked at me when we got home and didn't even say good night =(