My future inlaws insist on throwing us an engagement party since we got engaged in Oct. and our wedding is not until June of next year. They are not very wealthy, so I was hesitiant at first, but as I said, they are insisting because they really want to throw a party to celebrate us. (I tried the "just give us money for our wedding/honeymoon/gift" they are not budging - they said this is a milestone in our lives and they are doing it for us, period.) To cut on costs i wanted to do an evite and have a cocktail party with apps and finger foods, then a cake at the end. I don't think this is rude by any means because I know most of our friends and family would prefer an email invite and a party like this. I am stuck because we do want to include where we are registered on the invitations, but since it is such a casual party I don't want people to feel obligated to bring gifts. How do I word this? I know that there will be people that will want to, and will bring gifts even if I say not too...but I also know that they will not be gifts that we need/want if they do not know where we are registered. HELP! I