My husband and I got engaged, and planned on marrying in Sept 2012. Due to our own reasoning, we decided to do a small civil ceremony. We told everyone about it, but still wish to do the big thing to celebrate with friends and family, a ring ceremony, the dress, the party, the pictures, etc. Our budget is looking quite high, so with that... is it distasteful to have a bridal shower/stag and doe/expect gifts at the big wedding even though we are technically married now?