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bachelorette party etiquette

do I have to invite the women of the grooms family to my bachelorette party?

I'm not very close with them and was hoping to keep the party to my close friends ( mixed group of guys and girls) since I'd like to head out of town.

I have included them all in the bridal shower though.  is it ok to leave it as just that?

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Re: bachelorette party etiquette

  • You don't have to invite them.  
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  • egm900egm900 member
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    The only rule with pre-wedding parties is that those invited to them need to also be invited to the wedding.  If you're not close to them, I doubt they would be interested in going out of town anyway.
  • i guess they have been asking when it is.  what should i respond with?  they havent actualyl asked me directly...they have just asked the groom.  

    how do we respond with out hurting people's feelings?
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  • Well since you shouldn't be planning your own bachelorette party, just say that the host is in charge of the guest list.
  • ok - I'll have him respond with that from now .

    the ladies are crazy in his family( he agrees also lol).  given that im from a different country and culture, and i'm a little on the quieter side, they take that to mean i hate them and i dont like them. even though when i do see them, all is well and i talk with them as much as I can - they still belive that since we dont have much in common and i dont spend 90% of my time with them - i must hate them...

    thank you all for the advice - i just wanted to make sure it was ok not to invite them.  I'll leave the host with the list i already gave to her. :-)

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  • No need to invite them.  A bach party is usually your closest friends (who are obviously invited to the wedding.)
  • cool - thank you everyone :)
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  • Though, on your other board didn't you say you were restricting the wedding invite list to family?

    In either case, I agree with PPs.
  • yes - the wedding invite list ( excluding the wedding party) is family
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  • yes - everyone invited to the bachelorette party is invited to the wedding - ie the wedding party :) nothing big - just the few of us heading out of town for the weekend
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  • and my sister and one of my cousins that im close to that live near me - are also coming to the bachelortte party as well as the wedding of course
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