All of my bridesmaids live out of town from where our wedding is (where I grew up & where my parents live). One of them lives in the same city that I do currently (3 hours away from my parents). Most of the "major" wedding planning, decision making, & events will probably be in the city where our wedding is at.
My question is -- what all did you involve your bridesmaids in? I do not want to inconvenience any of them into thinking I need them to travel to where I live or where the wedding is to help out with all of the big events. All of the girls are very busy with school, careers, etc which I am very understanding of.
If 1 or all 4 can make it to the wedding dress shopping, that's awesome. If only 1 or even nobody can make it I understand (as I will have my mother, other family and friends available).
For bridesmaids dresses I'm thinking of picking out a few ideas I like, talking with my maid of honor, and then letting the others pick from there (so if we can't all get together to do a group "dress shopping trip" I'm fine with that).
The most important things where I want us all to be available is the shower & bachelorette party (which will probably take place in the same weekend) & the day or two leading up to our wedding. Other than that I want it to be up to them and their availability.
Has anyone else planned a wedding like this? Is this odd? I'm so excited & lucky to have these ladies as part of my big day but don't want them to think they need to be available whenever I call. I want to leave that up to them.
Does anyone have any thoughts, experiences, or suggestions on this? Any ideas for what I can do to make this "long distance planning/event" more fun for us all?
Thanks!