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Father of the Groom wants to wear 'his' tux....

Cassie8MarieCassie8Marie
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So i'm having the guys all have the same tux rented...my dad and my fiance's dad included. and the ring bearer. And the in-laws to be aren't strapped for cash by any means. He wants to wear his own tux because its 'close enough' and now my finance  has sent me a picture of it and yes the jacket is the same, but what about the shoes and shirt? I don't want him wearing a white shirt when everyone else is wearing ivory. am i being bridezilla right now or can i insist he rent the tux...?
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    [QUOTE]So i'm having the guys all have the same tux rented...my dad and my fiance's dad included. and the ring bearer. And the in-laws to be aren't strapped for cash by any means. He wants to wear his own tux because its 'close enough' and now my finance  has sent me a picture of it and yes the jacket is the same, but what about the shoes and shirt? I don't want him wearing a white shirt when everyone else is wearing ivory. am i being bridezilla right now or can i insist he rent the tux...? help!
    Posted by Cassie8Marie[/QUOTE]

    Let him wear his own tux, money aside. If the shirt color is really that big of a deal to you (trust me, it won't really matter) then have your FI ask his Dad to get a new similar color shirt to wear under his tux. Problem solved. Easy peasy.
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  • Cassie8MarieCassie8Marie
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    thanks for the input! we don't have a sample of the shirt and can't get one easily so i'm not sure how we will match it....
    I just know if it were me i'd totally rent one - i wouldn't want to stand out.  : /
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  • kellya01kellya01
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    I don't think you should let this one bother you too much.  Not much of the white shirt will show anyway, and he's going to look great even if he doesn't match the other guys! 
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  • opalsky007opalsky007 member
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    My dad wore his own tux for our wedding. I honestly have no earthly idea what color his shirt was. I didn't even take notice of it in the photos.

    This is a teeny, tiny detail that you won't notice on your wedding day. Let it go.
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  • MistyEyeBrideMistyEyeBride member
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    Don't worry about the teeny detail of his shirt being a shade off or his pants/shoes not being exactly the same. Just think about it: How often do you look at someone's shoes? ;)

    If I were you, I wouldn't spend any time worrying about this tiny detail. Sure, you would probably do something different if you were in his shoes, but it's what he's comfortable with.

    Now, if he wanted to come in a Big Bird costume, that might be a little too far, haha! Good luck!
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  • mattsdorothymattsdorothy
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    My FFIL has refused to even wear a suit to our wedding. As soon as he said he wasn't going to wear one, I just dropped the subject... not worth it and he's an adult that has been dressing himself for years. And, as PPs have said, no one will notice a difference in the tux, in the color of the shirt or in his shoes. I wouldn't give it one single more thought.
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    2 of our groomsmen wore their own tuxedos for our wedding. One of them had a completely different collar style on his shirt and freaked out when he arrived to get ready and he noticed the others shirts. He almost went out that morning to buy a new shirt because he swore I'd notice and be upset about it. I seriously didn't even notice until he said something to me about it, and even then, it wasn't that different than the others shirts. Please don't worry about it. In the grand scheme of things its not that big of a deal.

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  • jenylin1010jenylin1010
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    I would say let him wear his tux.  He doesn't have to match because he is not a part of the bridal party.  In my opinion, there are some things worth making a big deal over and some that are not.  Like someone else suggested, if it bothers you that much you could ask him to purchase an ivory shirt.
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  • doeie04doeie04 member
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    Let him wear what he wants. No one is going to notice he has an ivory shirt (especailly if it is against black.) or different black shoes. He probably has money because he doesn't spend it on un-needed things. Like everyone said. No one will notice, I promise! :)
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