Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner

MISSCOURTNEY20 · October 2010

FH and I are getting married at a hotel. The hotel coordinator told us that we would not know when our rehearsal would be until the last week in October because they don't book the rooms for rehearsals. We just have to get in when we can. So it very well could be on that Monday evening. With this said, I think that we should go ahead and do the rehearsal dinner on the 22nd of October. (I fiirst thought of the 29th but that is the day before my bachlorette party and I didn't want people to have to give me 2 nights of their weekend.) That way we can guarantee a Friday evening and not many people will have to get up on Saturday and go to work.

We will give out our Thank you gifts while having pizza. Is this too far in advance or shoud it be fine? I really don't want to do anything the night before the wedding because we are getting married at 11 in the morning so we will have a very early start with hair appts.

Thanks!!

Blueyed228 · October 2010

I think either is fine.

On a side note: I saw in another thread you said you were a teacher? Im curious. You post here alot during the day. Do you knot from work or just in between classes??

shaydenise · October 2010

I said the 22nd is fine IF you don't have people having to travel (i.e. all WP is local). If you do then I would do it the day before, but maybe have a rehearsal lunch that way you aren't dealing with it late at night before your wedding.

noodle_oo · October 2010

I think 2 weeks before the wedding (on 11/6/10) is WAY too early. I'd plan it for closer to the wedding, either 11/29 or maybe the Thur of Fri before the wedding. 1 week is okay, 2 weeks is too far out.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · October 2010

Yes I am a teacher. Many times I am knotting, I am on my prep periods or lunch. I also teach middle school social studies so they do a bunch of note taking. Sometimes I can get a few threads in when they are working by themselves. If I taught primary grades, I would never see this place.

Right now they are watching a video on Ancient Mesopotamia.....This is my 4th time watching it TODAY!!! LOL!!!!

MISSCOURTNEY20 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_rehearsalrehearsal-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:12367da4-e4cd-409d-9bdb-0ef0cc1727daPost:e0368379-d41e-4895-8385-ed633f1b2926">Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner</a>:
[QUOTE]I said the 22nd is fine IF you don't have people having to travel (i.e. all WP is local). If you do then I would do it the day before, but maybe have a rehearsal lunch that way you aren't dealing with it late at night before your wedding.
Posted by shaydenise[/QUOTE]

This...

[Deleted User] · October 2010

They don't monitor your computers? My mom teaches middle school and if they go on message boards or pretty much anything that isn't school related they get lectured. Especially if they are on during class times. They can get fired for it.

JennaV26 · October 2010

If you have a lot of travelers, do it the night before. We had a really early morning on the wedding day too (even though the ceremony wasn't until 6 p.m.) and everyone still managed to go to RD and then to a bar afterwards and not be tired the next day. I think it's called Wedding Day High. Except for me who had a minor panic attack and was forced to pop anti-naseau (Sp?!) pills and xanax all morning while one of my BMs made it her personal mission to do a stand-up comedy routine. Don't worry, it passed. Good thing my officiate was a physician!!

JennaV26 · October 2010

Ooohhh just saw your post that everyone is local. Then idk. I still vote the 29th I guess. Sorry I'm no help!!

betrothed123 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Yes I am a teacher. Many times I am knotting, I am on my prep periods or lunch. I also teach middle school social studies so they do a bunch of note taking. Sometimes I can get a few threads in when they are working by themselves. If I taught primary grades, I would never see this place. Right now they are watching a video on Ancient Mesopotamia.....This is my 4th time watching it TODAY!!! LOL!!!!
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]
So you Knot while you're supposed to be teaching? I'm glad I won't be sending my kids to your school.

pirategal03 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_rehearsalrehearsal-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:12367da4-e4cd-409d-9bdb-0ef0cc1727daPost:5274d9bb-6830-4ea4-8d07-8a16f596bb11">Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it's too early, personally. I don't like having wedding stuff spread out over more than about a week, unless it's REALLY spread out (shower 6 weeks before or so) and I'd honestly look at you funny if you told me the RD was on a different night than the rehearsal and 2 wks before the wedding. But that's just me. Maybe have a big get-together (not actually called an RD)that you host at that time, and give out your gifts and stuff, then just order pizza for the people in the rehearsal that night? I think not feeding people actually after the rehearsal is similar to not having the reception after the ceremony.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

This.

When I agree to be in a wedding I expect to commit to the day of and the night before, if a "mandatory" event was moved to weeks before I would be annoyed.

Having an early ceremony isn't an excuse, you knew that meant early hair appointments when you planned it that way.

Blueyed228 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_rehearsalrehearsal-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:12367da4-e4cd-409d-9bdb-0ef0cc1727daPost:77a2dd1e-85b4-444a-a49f-ba4cb591bd32">Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner : So you Knot while you're supposed to be teaching? I'm glad I won't be sending my kids to your school.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

Well according to your sig quote, your kids are screwed anyways, lol.

MarriedInAFever · October 2010

Have you scoped out therapists yet, B?

betrothed123 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_rehearsalrehearsal-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:12367da4-e4cd-409d-9bdb-0ef0cc1727daPost:fc389f28-826f-4f87-be58-62ea6d6c75e0">Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner : Well according to your sig quote, your kids are screwed anyways, lol.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]
Point taken, but even in therapy they damn well will know their Middle School Social Studies.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_rehearsalrehearsal-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:12367da4-e4cd-409d-9bdb-0ef0cc1727daPost:d75d0ac3-77d0-4296-b92e-b1ec308d95ca">Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner : That's what I was thinking too. My mom accidentally clicked a link to some sort of shopping network that someone sent her in an e-mail (her school e-mail account, none the less) and by the end of that same day, the head of IT and the principal had called her in for a meeting.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Yeah they mean business. My mom looked up something once on anorexia in google for a book she was teaching and for some reason, a bunch of porno sites popped up. She freaked out and had to unplug the computer, then call the front office so she wouldn't get fired, since if was flagged immediately. Luckily they thought it was funny.

betrothed123 · October 2010

I did begin the search, but I want to make sure they're good, MILF, because we all know my kids are going to need some seriously excellent therapy. I haven't picked one yet.

MarriedInAFever · October 2010

Maury will have to make a special episode just for you, B. U iz speschal.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · October 2010

Well the problem is we don't even know if we will be able to have rehearsal on the night before the wedding. The room might be booked and I don't want to ask people to come a rehearsal on Monday night, for example, and then ask them to go out to eat.

As far as the computer thing, there are many websites (youtube, myspace, facebook, ebay, etc.) that are blocked. By the end of the school year, TK might be blocked. Who knows? There is a website that teachers used to use to get ideas for lessons and field trips. Our school district blocked it because there was a chat board like this. Teachers getting ideas from other teachers was something they felt should not be done on the school computers. Go figure.

betrothed123 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Maury will have to make a special episode just for you, B. U iz speschal.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]
I know. My mommy used to tell me that all the time.

betrothed123 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Well the problem is we don't even know if we will be able to have rehearsal on the night before the wedding. The room might be booked and I don't want to ask people to come a rehearsal on Monday night, for example, and then ask them to go out to eat. As far as the computer thing, there are many websites (youtube, myspace, facebook, ebay, etc.) that are blocked. By the end of the school year, TK might be blocked. Who knows? There is a website that teachers used to use to get ideas for lessons and field trips. Our school district blocked it because there was a chat board like this. Teachers getting ideas from other teachers was something they felt should not be done on the school computers. Go figure.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

So you know your school would not approve of your use of their resources, but you continue to do it anyway? I can't wait for one of your kids to walk by while you're posting about how much you dislike all of them this year. That's going to be epic.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner : So you know your school would not approve of your use of their resources, but you continue to do it anyway? I can't wait for one of your kids to walk by while you're posting about how much you dislike all of them this year. That's going to be epic.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

That's what I was thinking. Obviously your computers are monitored because the other site was blocked, so why would you even risk posting about how much you hate your kids this year? They have software that allows you to see what a person in your network is doing at that very moment, including seeing your posts, so that's just asking to get fired if you ask me.

BecW2be · October 2010

Someone needs to teach MISSCOURTNEY the difference between "banned" and "monitored".

noodle_oo · October 2010

I find this very interesting that OP asked for WR advice and everyone is going nuts that she's a teacher and using this site. I don't think it is up to you to judge the fact that she is on here during her job. I think a lot of people sneak on at work when they probably shoudln't be. If she gets caught/fired, that's her problem and she knows the risks for what she's doing. it is not like you guys are being helpful and saying "hey you could get fired, think about it" you are judging her and calling her a bad teacher.

Steph0871 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I find this very interesting that OP asked for WR advice and everyone is going nuts that she's a teacher and using this site. I don't think it is up to you to judge the fact that she is on here during her job. I think a lot of people sneak on at work when they probably shoudln't be. If she gets caught/fired, that's her problem and she knows the risks for what she's doing. it is not like you guys are being helpful and saying "hey you could get fired, think about it" you are judging her and calling her a bad teacher.
Posted by noodle_oo[/QUOTE]

<div>The difference is the responsibilities in my opinion. At my job, if I hop on The Knot (which is pretty infrequently lately. I'm home today), I know I could get in trouble for not being productive. But what would suffer? A few client emails and website updates, etc. If I was a teacher, what would suffer? Education of youth. Another point- if I don't get my job done, I stay an extra 15 minutes to finish what I started. If MC doesn't get her job done during class, the kids don't stay longer, they just lose out on valuable education time.</div>

Steph0871 · October 2010

I should add... MC- I was definitely going to defend you. I have a lot of teachers in my family, including FI. I know it is a ton of work, and I know teachers bring home work all the time, and usually without the expectation of being paid for those at-home hours.

If you want to jump on The Knot during your breaks/lunch to decompress, I really couldn't care less. But if you have kids in your room, you have no business being on here. I'm sorry, but I'd be pissed to know my tax dollars are going to help you plan your wedding. So what if they're working in groups? Aren't you supposed to be walking around the rooms and guiding them? Offering insight? teaching?!

BecW2be · October 2010

Ditto Steph. Exactly what about being on TK when kids are in the room makes her a good teacher, noodle?

noodle_oo · October 2010

I didn't say she was a good teacher. I said it is none of our business to judge her.

eastunder1 · October 2010

I know we're not really on the subject anymore, but am i the only one that finds having the rehearsal dinner NOT on the same day as the rehearsal to be very odd? Its called a rehearsal dinner because it is RIGHT AFTER THE REHEARSAL. If you're doing it another time, its just some random dinner. I would find it annoying to have to do the shower, the party, the rehearsal AND some separate dinner too? No. If I were in your BPs shoes, I would rather just do some "lets all go to Chilis, Mrscourtney is buying" spur of the moment thing after the rehearsal whenever that ends up being then having yet another planned activity totally separate from it.

Plusalso, I would not have an ounce of sympathy for anyone who was reprimanded or fired for playing on the knot when they are supposed to be teaching children. wtf.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

Noodle-I never said she was a bad teacher. I can't judge her teaching skills because I don't know her. I said she shouldn't post about how much she dislikes her students (on a public forum, while her kids are in the room, no less), on a computer that is probably being monitored.

allisong23 · October 2010

Yeah, if I was a parent of a child in your class, I would be pissed. Your job directly impacts children. If you are spending your planning time knotting, you are not preparing for your classes.

noodle_oo · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_rehearsalrehearsal-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:12367da4-e4cd-409d-9bdb-0ef0cc1727daPost:77a2dd1e-85b4-444a-a49f-ba4cb591bd32">Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Rehearsal/Rehearsal Dinner : So you Knot while you're supposed to be teaching? I'm glad I won't be sending my kids to your school.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

I took this to mean bad teacher.

Anyway, I wasn't defending OP. I was just pointing out that this thread went way off topic early to something that isn't really relevant and was kind of mean/judgey. But this is SB, so I guess that's probably the norm. Nevermind! OP didn't even seem that bent out of shape about it, so I guess it doesn't even matter.

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