I was recently married last fall. A couple weeks before Christmas, my husband's older brother "John" proposed to his gf "becky." We found out that he wanted to propose in June and she is an awesome gal. When we knew of his intentions, we wanted to put Becky in our wedding, but I had already picked my bridesmaids the winter before. A bridemaid dropped out of my wedding last minute and Becky took her spot, and I was very happy to have her in my wedding.
On Christmas day, she asked my sister-in-law (who was also in my wedding) to be a bridemaid. John asked my husband and their brother to be best man and groomsman. Thus, my husband's entire family is in the wedding party except me. I am sitting there trying to be nice and understanding, but really I want to punch her in the face, because the entire holiday she was giving me the cold shoulder and now I know why.
I want to understand but this whole situation makes me feel that in my brother-in-law and his fiance's eyes that I am not part of my husband's family. And what makes me the most frustrated is ever since John proposed, Becky has shown her dark side and is being incredibly rude to my husband and his brother.
Am I wrong to feel this way?