So I saw L tonight, and her cousin (H) actually called her today. H was calling to ask L to step down. H first said that she was already having a really hard time picking a perfect dress, and that L may not fit into the dress of her vision. L told her she could order sizes up and have it tailored, or else order one in maternity if they had it. Then the cousin said what if she got sick the day of the wedding and couldn't be in it. L said she could get sick even if she wasn't pregnant. Then H started throwing out all the reasons why walking down an isle might be too hard for a pregnant woman, and L told her that should be her own choice since it's her body. H then started talking in circles, so L told H she didn't agree with her, but that she would respect her wishes and not be in the wedding if that's what she wanted. H started crying and the phone call was then over. And somewhere in there H assured L she'd have some crappy 'job' for L to do to 'honor' her, at which L was really offended.
Then L's Dad called her and said H's Dad called him upset because poor H was crying and L should have been more sensitive. L's Dad wanted her to call H back and tell her she would help out with her wedding in any other way possible, but L refused to do it. L's parents said if the shoe were on the other foot, they would never condone L booting someone out of her BP, but being good christians they understand H's family are humans and make mistakes/have faults, so they want to give them grace. So yea, they won't be boycotting the wedding on L's behalf. L said she will probably still go to the wedding just to be the bigger person, but she'll never see H's family the same way again.
L is seriously bummed.. and she thinks her Dad is dissappointed she wasn't more diplomatic which bums her out even more, and on top of all this L has not been able to hold any food down since last week Friday!! She has bad 1st trimester 'morning' sickness that lasts literally all day.
Does that seem too much like a pity-invite to ask her to be a BM in my wedding which is the week before? I just met L in October but picked my BP in Sept..